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I totally get where you're coming from and have been in the same positions with similar thoughts, but I'll also offer a different perspective, maybe it'll be interesting.
Anyway, I'm also often masking so well people won't "catch" me in ordinary situations (just clock me as weird like you described), which means I'm kind of stretched thin constantly. Sometimes when they end up talking down to me it actually makes me feel kinda relieved, if that makes any sense. Given very low expectations I can easily fulfill because I'm so much more, instead of endlessly demanding emotional responses I just don't have.
Also honestly it's way easier to manipulate people when they expect you to be less than you are. I'm mentally sort of an outsider just observing and reacting to others, so after many years of observing I know and can recognize all sorts of patterns people have, and use them to get what I want. If they're condescending I can even get sort of mean satisfaction out of it, seeing if I can get them "dance" without them even noticing. Though I usually choose my face-to-face interactions just by what is the easiest path since I'm tired
I sort of feel the same way. May have taken inspiration from Calvin at some point.