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cross-posted from: https://lemmygrad.ml/post/11286054

Hello everyone, I have an update on my situation: My father (the arrogant dog that broke into my room several times and has done other immoral things that are illegal) is pressuring me to get a job or go to school (some college) in THIS ECONOMY, and I am really stressed out (maybe even depressed) because I do not know what to do. I kind of want to make a Bluesky account because it is social media and I could ask for help there or something (and it might have more people to talk to). Any advice would be helpful.

I live in America as a 20 year old Asian enby (I think?), and I am not sure what I want to do besides leave the house my parents live in (they are humongous jerks). The issue with me moving out is that I do not have any job prospects (I am thinking of quitting college), many connections (I only talk to a few people online), or a mentally sound mind (I have PTSD and depression among other things). What should I do?

Edit: I live in Florida and wish I could move out of America (because fascism is awful) but I have no money and might have student debt (if I understand how Bright Futures works). The job market in America is well-known for being thoroughly broken, so I am kinda ruined in that regard.

Edit 2: The reason why I want to leave is due to both not wanting to be constantly triggered by the annoying things my other family members do (having parents that do not understand that I do not want them to break into my room [not in this house, but it is a different story, so ask if you want to know the story] is an example) and also the fact that my parents actually did some really horrible stuff in the past that the police did not help me with. My parents are honesty a big part of why I have such severe mental issues (yet they are so emotionally ignorant that it grates my brain every time I try to talk to them or ignore them).

Edit 3: The particular mental illnesses that I likely have (because I never got a diagnosis for any of them) are PTSD, OCD (including a particularly nasty form that causes me to fear a certain group of people), Generalized Anxiety Disorder (not sure if social anxiety is included), and likely several others. I am also likely on the autism spectrum. All of these make jobs that would be easy to others come across as difficult to me.

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[โ€“] TheRedWedge@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

In my city there is at least one org that I know of that offers social services for queer youths, including therapy, career counseling, support groups and funding for professional training. Are there any similar services in your area that you can access?

Solidarity to you, wish I had more useful input because I've been trapped in a similar situation in my teens and early 20s and I know how much it sucks, but the economy wasn't such a hellscape back then and I don't want to sound condescending and out of touch.

[โ€“] LeninZedong@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 3 weeks ago

Hmm, that sounds interesting. Could you tell me the name of the organization?

Ok, I did a little research, and there seem to be some in several places within Florida, but not in my area, so if I have to go to one, I would have to move. It might be worth it in the long run, because there are barely any resources for anything where I am.

I am not planning on being homeless, but if that happens, then I might move anyways (there is nothing over here in this suburban sprawl).