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Hardly any responses are "unhinged". But I'll try my best.
Don't force yourself to do it. Instead, look at your list*, and just simulate the items one by one in your head, as if you'd do it.
Sometimes it happens that I really, really feel like doing one of them, like a neurotypical. It doesn't sound like it'd work, but it does.
There is never any pressure to do any of them; then it would not work, because starting the process would be the new thing to be stuck on. Quite often, I just don't feel like doing any of them. But that was not the job, the job was to simulate them. And it's done, and I can allow myself to do nice things then.
(*) If there is no list, making the list is the only job. Don't start on any items on it, just create the list. Then relax and enjoy whatever you want, until you feel like doing simulations.
I used to do this. Since I was a child, but it'd regularly trick me into thinking I'd done the thing. I'd have mentally done it so it was checked off the brain list, then someone would be upset later but I swore I had done it!
This would also escalate in the morning when I'd fall back asleep and dream about going about my day, then wake up late thinking I was already on my way to work or school.
I try to only do this for large tasks now.
My way around this is to do "incomplete" simulations. I just need an idea of how it'd feel to be on the task, not finished it. Never simulate to the end, or one of two things will happen: 1. waking up to the harsh reality where it is not done yet, 2. thinking it is done.
E. g. when I need to go grocery shopping, I simulate how I get up, shoes on, grab a bag, think about whether I need a jacket or umbrella, get out of the door, start walking. How would that feel?
I described it in more detail here: https://lemmy.ml/post/36147982