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The bear thing scared a lot of decent guys off.
edit: And just to be clear, should anyone think i'm alpha male-ing. If every woman out there is scared to death of the average guy, who am I to further that? I have a wife, I have kids, I simply do not start conversations with women because when that chose the bear thing happened, not one woman I know didn't resonate with that. Who am I to try to push past that?
Not saying I agree with the bear thing, but understand there’s statistics at play here. Whether it’s a bear or a man, it’s not to imply all men or all bears will attack you. It’s relative likelihood. And whether I think women who chose the bear got the risk assessment correct or not, as a non-rapist, I’m not really offended by the idea that some subset of men has made women extra cautious.
...leaving women with getting approached to an even greater degree by men who don't get that. Thus confirming their bias and continuing the spiral.
At this point, I know of no-one who has any idea how to walk back the great and widening chasm between genders. It's heartbreaking.
The vast majority of men out there aren't POS. The vast majority of evening and nighttime walks aren't dangerous. Yet women are scared AF to walk at night to the point where they feel they need to be armed, and that the average guy is worse than the bear.
Decent guys didn't get us into this, and we're damned well incapable of getting us out.