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How to know how to be normal (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 4 days ago by ashestoashes@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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It seems everyone is in on a secret I've been excluded from. I don't know how to understand tone or anything of the sort, I don't know how I come across. People get frustrated and angry at me. I am unsure how to be normal. What do I do? I have no idea.

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[–] Commiejones@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Have you been diagnosed as Autistic yet? Don't bother trying to be normal. Masking is a death sentence. If you tell people you are autistic you might get a little less frustration and anger from people. If people can't deal that is their problem not yours.

[–] ashestoashes@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Why 'yet'? I know people who have autism, I don't. In fact they're more socially successful then I am.

[–] Commiejones@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 3 days ago

I'm not saying for sure you are Autistic or ND but your post sounds exactly like something I would say when I was unaware of my autism.

You get along with the Autistic people you know? Do they get frustrated and angry at you for not being normal? Autistic people tend to understand each other better than they understand NT people.

Maybe the autistic people you know are more "socially successful" because they aren't trying to be normal. Maybe their recognition of their autism allows them to better regulate themselves and use coping mechanisms.