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How to know how to be normal (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 4 days ago by ashestoashes@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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It seems everyone is in on a secret I've been excluded from. I don't know how to understand tone or anything of the sort, I don't know how I come across. People get frustrated and angry at me. I am unsure how to be normal. What do I do? I have no idea.

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[–] Богданова@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 3 days ago

It's been a big struggle of mine. What you wanna develop is called "Interpersonal Skills"

How to use them depends on your environment, unfortunately if you are Neurodivergent chances are your environment is not fit for you, which means you're gonna have to copy other people to get by, aka. "Masking" which can lead to burnout(this is worse than many assume, career ruining potentially), so it's important to mask selectively, consciously, as a survival tactic and find friends who will respect you as your unmasked self. There's really nothing you can do to make someone accommodate you, they will expect you to fit in with the status quo. The only choice we have is either learn to copy them or find our own community.