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Should I lie about my job references? (hexbear.net)
submitted 1 day ago by legaltender@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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I need advice on whether or not I should fabricate references that an employer asked from me. I haven't worked in 3 years and I've quit all of my previous jobs in not so great ways ( I'm a dumbass ), which leaves me unable to give any real contact info. I've never faked references before but I'm desperate for work at the moment and this specific job could lead to an actual career for me. The business owner who I spoke said he prefers references from my past employers, I just have no idea on how I could fake this or if I even should? I've already lied on my resume about various things but for whatever reason I just feel super anxious about lying when it comes to my references

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[–] legaltender@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Yeah, they will absolutely reach out to whoever I list. I was more so worried about someone I know fucking up while faking it for me and having to deal with the repercussions of that afterwards. I just get paranoid about an employer finding out that I lied after I've already been hired and then getting terminated or something

[–] TheLastHero@hexbear.net 8 points 1 day ago

there's websites where you can pay someone to pretend to be a reference, and they'll talk you up as much as you want. idk which ones are trustworthy and reliable through.

[–] invalidusernamelol@hexbear.net 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

We usually just cover for each other where I work. If someone needs a reference, you tell them you're someone higher up, and since you both work there it's a lot easier to bullshit your way through it.

Works really well when you're all shifting positions and companies in the same industry.

You can also tap former co-workers/friends that know you or know about one of your jobs. It's easier to lie when there's some truth there.