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Should I lie about my job references? (hexbear.net)
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I need advice on whether or not I should fabricate references that an employer asked from me. I haven't worked in 3 years and I've quit all of my previous jobs in not so great ways ( I'm a dumbass ), which leaves me unable to give any real contact info. I've never faked references before but I'm desperate for work at the moment and this specific job could lead to an actual career for me. The business owner who I spoke said he prefers references from my past employers, I just have no idea on how I could fake this or if I even should? I've already lied on my resume about various things but for whatever reason I just feel super anxious about lying when it comes to my references

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[–] towhee@hexbear.net 20 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I've quit all of my previous jobs in not so great ways ( I'm a dumbass ), which leaves me unable to give any real contact info.

Don't assume this! I also thought I had burned all my bridges by being a fuck-up but one of the people I fucked over tried to give me another job recently. Don't undersell the value of being an employee who can semi-reliably do an okay job and occasionally crash & burn pretty hard. That's still above par in a lot of industries, enough to make you preferable over some totally unknown rando! Honestly I'm perpetually in awe that the human race accomplishes anything whatsoever.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Don't undersell the value of being an employee who can semi-reliably do an okay job and occasionally crash & burn pretty hard. That's still above par in a lot of industries

Hell, as long as you're not a complete asshole/piece of shit, this sounds like a great employee in food service.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

And yet, there are so many places that will terminate you after missing as little as 2 days/shifts unaccounted for.

Maybe it's the churn strategy they use for their labor force.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 3 points 22 hours ago

I'm not gonna act like food service is great, because they will fuck you over at any chance they get, like firing you if you miss shifts, even if it's not that many. What I was pointing at is that the bar is so low that someone who's halfway competent and respectful would get a full throated recommendation, even if they burned bridges on their way out.