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Curiously, this is something parents are often on the lookout for with their kids - especially younger and less verbal kids.

... Not the kind of parents the OP image is talking about, no, they're not doing this much or at all.

They're too busy.

From their erractic, extreme emotional shifts.

They'd actually be more likely to mock and punish a child displaying those early coping mechanisms.

I am kind of amazed you managed to describe the opposite of what this image is saying.

What a truly blessed life you must have lived.

Its about a disregulated, unpredictable emotional environment at home, for young kids, causing various kinds of ultimately self-destructive coping mechanisms... as survival mechanisms.

The negative feedback loops.

This isn't about developing empathy, its about growing up in an environment that teaches you that other people's emotions are fundamentally time bombs that can go off, and cause very real problems, so you learn how to defuse them.

Empathy?

No no no, that never happens to or for a kid in this kind of environment, at least not within the household.

The household is an ongoing threat management training simulator, which bomb do I need to defuse now, and how, and if I can't, how do I brace for impact and aftermath... empathy might be a thing they experience and can then maybe eventually internally model, if they know other people and kids, from stable families, but its typically not fully experienced or developed untill years after they get out of that home, and manage to surround themselves with better examples of people.

And even still, the kid, now an adult, learned micro expressions and tone shifts and that kind of stuff as primarily a threat assesment paradigm.

Takes years and decades to unlearn all that CPTSD, retrain your brain, and it usually never fully goes away, you usually just end up with a set of stable coping mechanisms and an insistence on either boundaries and/or local environment control.

By the way, to anyone who actually grew up in an environment the OP describes:

Your entire comment reads as an obvious misdirection from the topic at hand, that's trying to sound neutral and cool, and intelligent, but is insincere, self-aggrandizing by way of obviously shifting the topic to ... whatever it is you wanted to talk about.

It's insulting, disrespectful, and triggering / re-traumatizing.

The abused person's lived experience?

Nah, not important, there's this other thing to talk about, blah blah blah blah blah blah, anyway, what were you talking about?

... Most of the other people who've been abused the way the OP image describes... well, they're too non-confrontational to tell you how they really feel.

Because that's been trained into them.

Because when they tell other people how their actions make them feel... bombs go off.