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I hate how pedantic people online will get all over that my grammar isn't great. (piefed.world)

submitted 5 days ago by MonsterTrick@piefed.world to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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I will confess, I'm not that great at grammar. Mainly, I'm the sort of person that write/type stuff as I am thinking it and barely look back at what I have wrote. I see it as that it's online and it's as informal as it gets. As long as it is readable, it shouldn't matter if it not 100% perfect.

With that said: majority of the time, I swear that they can just make out roughly what I am trying to saying. I will understand it more if my grammar for a message was so bad that they can't make out what I'm trying to say. Otherwise, I just felt kinda bullied and mocked for having bad grammar skills.

As ridiculous as it sounds, it makes me so self-conscious and paranoid to post anything and it can even be as simple as making a reply on a post. Internet is a brutal place but so is real-life. The only difference is that I would just block them which I know is little petty but I think that it would be better than me snapping at strangers online. My patience is thin and I just get sick of having people in my life just getting angry at me as well as I feel like a punchline to a joke.

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[–] dsilverz@calckey.world 2 points 5 days ago

@MonsterTrick@piefed.world @goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

As an ESL (English as a second language) individual (with my primary language being Portuguese), I'd say understanding is way more important than grammar.

I mean, philosophical and literary (especially Shakespearean) works are "the apex of correct grammar", still those texts can often reveal themselves hard to understand. The highly-elaborate grammar didn't improve its understandability. That's because English, and human languages in general, have a lot of quirks, and they can only get so far when it comes to the expression and communication of mostly-ineffable human feelings. In fact, human languages suck when timelessness and beinglessness are involved (e.g. explaining the transcendental concept of "non-existence" (such as in Ein Sof) as something other than "nonexistent"), languages expect a "when" and "objects/subjects".

Don't worry trying to be perfect. Don't even worry to impress humans or to satisfy humans's whims, for humans themselves can't even satisfy themselves, and they won't even try to be perfect towards you despite expecting your perfectness towards them. And even if they tried, it's not feasible trying to be perfect, for we, human beings and living beings, we're far from being able of perfectness. We exist in an imperfect demiurgic Ordo, one where Chao (primordial chaos) constantly frustrates any attempt of perfection coming from self-rearranging structures, not because Chao is bad, but because Ordo is born from it.