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Hi. I'm kinda of a noob in the world of self-hosting and matrix, for that matter. But I was wondering how heavy is it to host a matrix server?

My understanding how matrix works is each participating server in the room stores the full history and then later some sort of merging happens or something like that.

How is that sustainable? Say in 5 years matrix becomes mainstream and 5 people join my server and each also join 3 different 10k+ people rooms with long histories. So now what I have to account for that or people have to be careful of joining larger rooms when they sign up in a smaller-ish server?

Or do I not understand how Matrix works? Thanks.

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[–] Eldaroth@lemmy.world 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I believe group calling is only a thing certain clients (e.g. Dino, Movim) support, although there is a initiative to implement it on protocol level as far as I am aware.

[–] SreudianFlip@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 months ago (2 children)

So, Onomatopoeia there is wondering why xmpp isn't standard, and I'm getting the sense that it is targeted at oldskool usage.

Discord is popular because it's easy to start using, it has collaboration features like group screensharing, and it doesn't assume an ubernerd is the target audience.

Maybe we'll get a more unified, feature rich xmpp implementation, but until then, sounds like matrix/element is closer, despite its warts.

[–] Eldaroth@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Yeah you could consider it old school, or maybe just a product of another time were people didn't mind to use multiple software for different uses.

I for one don't mind using Mumble for voice and XMPP for text chat or one to one calls for example.

I don't have a computer or smartphone so I only can install one app and that's it. And I know I might be in the minority when it comes to that, at least compared to the general public. For gods sake it's already hard to get people to install a second messenger app, not even trying to get them off WhatsApp or other meta crap...

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Its not "targeted at old school", it's an open, extensible protocol.

If devs focused on extending the protocol instead of building an app to handle things like this, it could do it, everywhere.

[–] SreudianFlip@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Mucking about with dozens of extensions instead of users just installing an app seems pretty old skool, lol, brings me back to bbs life.

A discord replacement needs to have notifications, respond to calls, as well as share multiple screens.

It also needs to have enough upfront simplicity so that it garners adequate critical mass for network effects. This means a set and forget unified interface and standardized features.