Funny

I find it incredibly stupid when people blame the forests when they have a problem with a specific tree.

That's why I have a problem with the phrase "improving yourself" because it's such a broad statement and nonspecific. A guy could be a gym buff but still struggle to date because he's too shy, overly anxious etc. Women, or any gender, like a confident person who could take care of him/herself. And the problem, of course is, no one will tell the guy what the problem is because it will come off as rude. A pertinent issue is that men tend to be solitary and form less bond with others than women. Women give each other feedback, while for men, there isn't anyone to receive feedback from. Many men instead end up losing their way to snake oil salesmen.

I saw post on social media with female OP wondering why some men are still single. A lot of female commenters say many men are too anxious and over thinking. It reminds me of my friend who is good looking, but quite insecure. Looks don't matter much to women and they prefer personality. Many insecure, single guys scoff when I say this, but look around and there are less physically attractive guys dating ridiculously good looking women. It is nuanced and looks matter to an extent, but it's not a top priority to less shallow women. Women aren't some mystical and mysterious goddesses who are untouchable.

Women do have a point that men would do anything, including harmful stuff, than go to therapy. I'm glad that another friend of mine seems to be holding on his current relationship long, after I advised him to go to therapy.