this post was submitted on 10 Feb 2026
727 points (98.9% liked)
People Twitter
9533 readers
761 users here now
People tweeting stuff. We allow tweets from anyone.
RULES:
- Mark NSFW content.
- No doxxing people.
- Must be a pic of the tweet or similar. No direct links to the tweet.
- No bullying or international politcs
- Be excellent to each other.
- Provide an archived link to the tweet (or similar) being shown if it's a major figure or a politician. Archive.is the best way.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Well yeah, it's the emotional come down from it. Being mad isn't just a logical state, its a biochemically based emotion. It doesn't go away immediately, you gotta take a breather and process your emotions as they cool off. As that's happening you can feel steamrolled or like you aren't being listened to because the reason for the argument isn't actually the thing, it's that you had a need and you got into it about the thing because that seemed a way to get the need met. And like, yeah, that's a skill you need to learn regardless, but it's basically a form of relationship where there's no excuses and you feel like you're always the unreasonable one.
And yeah, this has been how the first two or three years of my relationship with my wife forced me to git gud. Way better than stupid fights, but yeah it was not easy as someone who had had a disorganized attachment style that leaned anxious.