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[–] mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It’s learned helplessness. They hit a roadblock they couldn’t figure out, and instead of trying again, they just went “well I guess this tech stuff isn’t for me.” And now that’s the attitude they fall into every time.

It’s like if someone lost their first board game, and just wrote off board games entirely because they aren’t any good at them. And any time they do need to play a board game, they can just call their favorite nephew to play it for them.

[–] Zozano@aussie.zone 6 points 6 months ago

Wow, so blessed to be the be the 'board game guy'. I sure do love being dependable and perceived as not valuing my time.