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Have you ever been excluded by peers in after work activities or just been excluded by people in times making you feel isolated? How did you deal with those emotions? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 months ago by Confidant6198@lemmy.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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[–] haui@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Uhm... I have been excluded from all kinds of activities since a very young age.

It has caused harsh loneliness and a lack of self esteem.

Then I gave up on people and decided to join the dark side. I used my considerable brain power to enrich myself and those who worked with and for me.

Two things I learned from that:

no matter your abilities, one moment of inattentiveness and you are dead (at least financially)
money does not make you happy

From that I searched for a new meaning in life and ultimately arrived at marxism which helped me understand why I was excluded in school and kindergarden, why i turned to the oppressor class and why that isnt even smart for the person oppressing others.

This helped me deal with being lonely. Dont get me wrong, i still face loneliness sometimes but i cope with it a lot better because i can always help people understand shit and learn from them too. Being in peer groups over extended periods is just not my destiny, materially speaking.

[–] Confidant6198@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

What conclusion did you arrive as to why you were excluded in school and kindergarden?

[–] haui@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

An amalgamation of incompatibilities which are my material circumstances:

mixed migrant family
strong abuse cycles in said family
weak theory of mind and social empathy, strong mirror neurons
exceptional reasoning and associative thinking skills but bad memory
no real gender appropriate mentor (in my case, no father figure)
extraversion

Can you imagine how that is a cruel cocktail?

[–] Confidant6198@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Would you say then that racism and or colorism was a big one?

[–] haui@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 2 months ago

Oh, no. I didnt mean mixed skincolor but mixed as in two different so a hugely different culture on my end.

Therefore, racism was definitely a factor but not colorism. My parents also didnt teach me proper cultural awareness so the situation was the perfect clusterfuck.