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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

nobody is 'like that' in real life because there is way more context in real life.

on the interent a huge part of waht is interpreted is pure projection devoid of context. hence why people overreact to everything that they'd never react to if they heard irl.

it's funny. i used to be part of a forum where i was super controversial, then people would meet me irl, confront me about how evil i was... and then end up agreeing with me when i restated my opinions with a face and a voice and a tone.

most people were often interpreting me in such a way as to believe i was saying the opposite of what i was saying... as in they were projecting their fears and insecurities onto my words. they didn't do that as much face to face. after they met me face to face i went from being this 'evil cruel bastard' to the 'kind and generous' person.

i also notice that the insecure hateful people IRL, make stupid accusations about me projecting their behaviour onto me constantly.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

i used to be part of a forum where i was super controversial, then people would meet me irl, confront me about how evil i was... and then end up agreeing with me when i restated my opinions with a face and a voice and a tone.

This.

I'm a pedantic asshole online, but I also like to help when I can. ...but I'm still a pedant, even if I'm more generous.

I fully expect anything I say to be thrown back at me while AFK and out somewhere, and I fully believe as I write it that I can defend or support my opinions the same; just with less reference material because you can't Google search in the middle of a lively debate.

It's easy for our attempts to help others to start to wax flippant, or be taken with suspect motives; that's normal for written-only comms and repeat nudges. It's okay. I hope the day when someone says "hey asshole" I'll be at my more rested and calm, and I can represent myself well.

Worst case is I appear in the real like I appear online, and I can accept that.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I just remember a time on the internet, esp early reddit, where it was all taken with good faith and good humor. communities you could swap stories and have fun and when people got super mad and rage quit it was funny. now a lot of content is rage-only engagement.

Now everyone wants to demonize you and damn you to hell and call you a Nazi loving baby rapist for liking a different brand a car than they do, or something totally inconsequential. or if you offer them a suggestion to a problem they present that they don't like... again you are evil and immoral and awful. I don't think people on the internet or anywhere, are inherently evil for being different than me and expressing differing opinions. what scares me is seeing that kind of thinking spill out into real life interactions.

I feel like I missed the whatever boat everyone got on. Social media probably. I hardly ever used any of it and when I did it was in a very limited way where it was like my 20 irl friends I followed. once it it start pushing crazy algorithm shit on me I stopped using it.