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[–] Entertainmeonly@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 2 days ago (6 children)

This almost gets it. Complements should be about choices.

Instead of saying, "you're so pretty." Try, "that color really brings out your sparkle."

"You're hair looks so amazing today, did you try a new product?" Not "You have pretty hair."

By complimenting the decision you have given ownership of the praise to the decision maker and not whatever gods you think made us. My hair is pretty because i painfully take care of it. Not because I'm blessed. Complement a persons decisions rather than station.

[–] Kacarott@aussie.zone 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yes, but I think it is more meaningful to compliment things which are the result of effort, or a long series of decisions. Compliment someone's muscles when they've been making the effort to work out for a couple months. Compliment someone's cooking ability if they spend a lot of time cooking and practicing that art. Compliment someone's hair if they clearly put effort into making it look good.

Love this addition, thank you!

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