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I am going to give all advice then look at the comments to see if there is anything more to say (jog my memory).
Remember that if a baby is crying and you are at your wits end, you can
Also you can get concert reusable ear plugs. You can hear conversation and crying through them, but it takes the Edge off. Totally worth it.
If your baby has the tongue attached to the bottom of the mouth with skin, insurance won't cover if a doctor deems it to not affect speech development, BUT that baby will not be able to such from a breast unless it is cut.
Having a universal bottle steamer is great. Good for steaming frozen breast milk for babies and steaming milk for coffee.
Never leave an infant around a dog. Dog instincts sometimes are to kill offspring that is not their own, or to pick up infants by the scruff of the neck like puppies. Not even once.
If future momma is having trouble walking up stairs, you can always crawl on your hands and knees while she sits on your shoulders. She will likely laugh the whole way.
Natural births (no morphine and no oxytocin and no interventions e.g. c sections) increase if you know how to work through pain. The kind of labor pain and contractions is similar to that of an orgasm. She has to be allowed to not be "up in her head" and instead in the moment. I got a doula to be there during labor and certain instincts of mine were distracting and pulling my wife into a mindset that was halting the oxytocin production iland increasing the pain.
Have the future momma take the multivitamin every day and retake it if it is thrown up. If there are any preexisting conditions in momma then the pregnancy is much likelier to be with good outcomes.
Remember the 5 s's , shushing, bouncing, stomach pressure, swaying, swaddling. These 5 are the goto for soothing a baby.
Get a medicine ball that fits future momma. When she gets closer to giving birth, it is really easy to sit and "walk" by bouncing while watching a show. Also after baby is born, it is really easy to put baby in a sling/wrap/carrier and bounce the baby to sleep while playing videogames.
Certain babies and mothers sleep better when in bed together. There is recent conflicting information regarding whether this increases or decreases infant death. It's worth looking into to see recent developments.
When you are full of adrenaline and baby was just born, make a journal entry. It all gets hazy as the adrenaline goes down.
Good luck!