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For me its much easier to work on something when i do it together with someone. For me this is a problem, because i dont have even a single friend, and i dont know any adhd specific ways form a friendship as adult. My parents and psychiatrist just gave me a rough advice, and not the exact steps that i need to follow to form a friendhip.
Difficultly with visualising the steps to complete a process is an ADHD symptom.
Finding it easier to stay on-task with someone else in the room is called ‘body-doubling’ and is an adhd coping strategy.
If your therapist hasn’t sent you for a ~4 hour dedicated assessment, they can’t say you do or do not have adhd.
My therapist was like; “Maybe adhd, but not autism.” I 100% have both.
So get a second opinion.
Hobbies are great ways to find the friends! If it's a hobby that requires you to buy stuff, just start asking the staff at the store for recommendations for groups that you might be able to join. Check Facebook or Twitter for people (in your area or just in general) that are already in said hobby. You stand to make friends AND get better at said hobby. Win win.
I get it. When you're a kid, friends come from being locked up in the same building all day. As an adult the options are work or community (religious house, community center, or hobby specific spaces). It is harder because you only spend a similar amount of time as you did at school in one of those and it's the least fun one. But it can be done! It just takes time. I guess that advice goes for hobbies and for friendships.