Dad for a Minute

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If you need encouragement, advice or just a hug this is the right community for you. Your "dad for a minute" is here to help. Moms are welcome too.

Note that this is an inclusive community. Everyone is welcome.

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How do you know when to give up on someone? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by IronBird@lemmy.world to c/dadforaminute@lemmy.world

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considering the topic of this community, it should be obvious who i'm referring to...some people never should have had kids in the first place, and arent worth the heart/headache of worrying yourself with...right?

edit/ i realize this actually might have been too vague, i mean having piece of shit for a father. when do you just giveup even bothering to keep that connection going?

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[–] PunnyName@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

If they don't learn, will they ever?

I cut off my mother 12 years ago. I do not communicate with her at all. She's treated me like a second rate citizen all my life.

I made every attempt to bridge the gap across 30+ years. Even as a child. But children are supposed to be children, not peacekeepers. But when the insults and passive aggressive jibes persisted for 3 decades, I finally had enough, and stopped talking to her altogether. It was a gradual process, but I had to stop.

I won't be someone's punching bag. Nor should you. If they can't meet you in the middle and attempt to be a better person towards you, and give you the respect you deserve, and honor your boundaries, it's okay to finally cut ties.

Abuse comes in many forms, and identifying it can be difficult, tedious, and laborious. But once you learn what you are worth, and what you are willing to put up with (and what you aren't willing to put up with), you can be free.