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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
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I like describing behaviours as effective or ineffective. "Bad" is tying judgment to it.
Being direct is generally more effective than passive/aggressive, if one's intent is to build on a relationship, but passive/aggressive may fit the bill if you no longer give a shit and want to simply get your digs in before leaving (say a shitty boss).
You're right in that (in)effective would work here, but I did intend to also apply judgment. It often is not the most effective technique, but I also believe it is often unnecessarily hurtful and used as petty vengeance. I see it as an immature reaction from people who don't care about the receiver, or haven't developed other ways to communicate.
Take your shitty boss example : You're angry at them, and you want to express it. Anger is used to signal your desire to change a situation. If you're leaving, the only thing left to change is their behavior to future employees. If you use passive aggressive methods, you're either hurting them back for simple vengeance, in which case you just don't care about them as a human being because this hurting serves no purpose, or you're trying to change their future behavior. In that case, you will probably just paint yourself as an asshole, which will invalidate your position in their mind. It might sometimes work, but I would not consider it effective compared to being direct for example.