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Pot calling the kettle black here. Chill out, they were trying to help.
You wrote a post with a title that their comment helps with, no need to be a jerk, and maybe consider more specific titles that capture your actual ask.
It's currently akin to a post titled "how do I invest in a 401k?" And having the actual ask be the logistics of logging into vanguard.
Post titles just aren't great at detailing the real issue when you need to provide context. It's frustrating whem someone doesn't actually read the body of the post, because then the comments can be filled up with people answering the wrong question. Then someone that can actually answer the question might skip the post because there's already a bunch of comments under it.
If you're going to help, it's better to actually read through the provided context. Otherwise it's more likely to just end up being self-gratification.
It's kinda like the people who give up right-of-way at stop signs. Sure, it makes that person feel better about themselves, but the confusion just leads to everyone at the stop taking longer to get through the intersection.
Fair points, it is unfortunate that decentralized can mean self hosting your own alternative service or hosting a service in a distributed fashion.
The situation still could've been resolved without insulting someone who wanted to be helpful, but was maybe not careful.
Or implying that their behavior reflects poorly on the entire blahaj community. That community don't mean any harm.
That user is a different person from the first one that responded.
The blahaj user's only contribution to the conversation was that snarky comment, and I brought it up because I've noticed a few users from that instance do that this past week, and not just to me. Like I said, I expect that behavior from hexbear, as blahaj users are usually nice to interact with.
And on the blowing up at the original commenter, I'm tired of people using me for their own self-gratification. And if you're not actually reading someone's question before saying something, that's generally what it is. Hopefully they learned to not make that mustake in the future