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Emotional labor is the soul-sucking artificial cheeriness employees (typically in retail) have to affect for the customers' benefit.
Pieces of flair.
Emotional labor is not "I like to socialize and my partner likes to play video games and making social plans is somehow a drain on me because I want to play the victim."
This quote from the article needs more emphasis.
Women aren't playing the victim. They are being over worked in a relationship. It's not their job be a partner, parent, therapist and event planner. They want to be a partner. A relationship is not going to be healthy if it feels like a job to one or both people in the relationship. A job much like you just described.
If men want a better future where they see themselves as truly happy, they are going to have to take the first steps. Maybe that looks like admitting uncomfortable truths. Maybe that's finding other people to open up to. Maybe it's just starting the conversation about mental health. There's no defined way to approach this situation and we are all trying to figure it out too.
The burden to improve ourselves should not fall on others. That is unfair. People have limited energy and that energy should not be drained by others that are afraid to help themselves first.
It's very difficult to help others if we can't help ourselves first.
Doesn’t address my point. Which is the weaponization of therapy-speak. Or socio-economic terms in this case.
Imma stop you right there. No where did any of the men referenced in the article ask for women to do this. Women took this role upon themself, and are complaining about it. As if they are playing. Like the victim.
If a man wants to sit at home and play video games and you want to “fix” him by making him dress up and go to events he’s not interested in — you’re not doing him a favor. He’s doing you a favor by going along.
And it’s pretty gross the way women demand a man be emotionally available and then immediately complain when he opens up and grouse about being a therapist. Imagine if a man complained about being a therapist every time his partner opened up. You’d be disgusted.
This article does not mention video games. I also don't see any points about women fixing men's behavior.
The tone of the article seems to be more about raising awareness of an issue.
A partner can be a supportive partner while not being a therapist. It would be unfair to overstep the boundary of supportive partner and pressure them into taking more responsibility.
If your focus is strictly on the definition. I have nothing to offer. I don't understand the purpose of giving words that much influence over my life. They are just words that will change meaning over time anyways.