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I didn't understand. you are transitioning (eg on hrt) and you didn't have srs yet? or you aren't physically transitioning yet and identify as a woman personally or socially too (ie social transition)?
in either case you can explain them the current position and let them figure out instead of you doing it for them. edit: I mean like saying you are a woman at stage xyz of transition and not asking their sexuality instead.
also online dating can be pretty frustrating at times. I would advise against making it a primary focus or a big source of self worth at any point.
I've been on puberty blockers for 9 years and hormones for 7 years. Also I don't identify as a woman, I'm Asian I know Americans and Europeans have a different view but at least in my country identifying as a woman is not a thing?
oh, in that case probably I'm missing the cultural context here. I think you personally want to be a woman? I don't know if India counts as Asian in this context but there legally and socially you have birth sex and gender while transitioning and after surgery you officially switch sex. if gender determined by genitals is socially accepted over personal gender identity then it can be like that. best idea then might be saying gender as 'transitioning' rather than male or female to avoid confusion. people would know you have male sex organs with growing female bodily traits and in near future you'll be biologically woman.
I've also heard that in Asian cultures certain homosexual men (who particularly aren't attracted to women at all) are considered as woman in terms of mind but man in terms of body. So it's defined outside male-female binary notion. so cultural context matters.
Uhhh I don't know any of that, I'm Korean and we don't have anything of that. Being trans is a separate thing from women, you're technically not a man but not a woman either. Also you can't be a biological woman, that's not how it works 🤣 if you have XY chromosomes you are a male it doesn't matter if you remove your genitals.
oh I had no idea about that.