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I go with the lore so they understand what perverse machinations shaped me
100% better to know out of the gate if they’re going to judge or have an opinion. Most react really well and if you sprinkle in some humour it’s a good opportunity for some honest bonding.
It's mentally costly though, like you have to spend a lot of time assuring them you're actually not making it up (people don't want to believe bad things happen) or you have to "explain" over and again. Well that's my experience anyways!
If someone doesn’t want to believe me, that’s their choice; if someone is down to reject what I say out of hand, I don’t want to associate with them any more than necessary, so I don’t really care if they believe me (caveat: sometimes it matters for an outcome, like if you need an absence at work or school excused or if you’re in court, but providing evidence is standard for those types of claims regardless of their reason).