trans and nonbinary people (and cis if you apply!), how did you pick your name? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by thumbtack@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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just interested in hearing peoples stories for how y’all have chosen your new names! doesn’t have to be particularly profound or interesting really, i just like hearing about others experiences.

i’m actually planning on changing my own soon socially despite being cis, and just really like hearing how others came to find their names, as well as am curious about if anyone had to go through more than one to find what’s right for them. i figured this would be the best community to talk about the topic even if i’m not trans :)

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[-] MayaHorsewoman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 year ago

As someone whose egg cracked very recently I am still unsure if Maya will be my final decision.

It's tough for me. The female Versions of my deadname were ones ingot bullied with my entire teen years so they have this very negative memory to them.

First I went in a direction of names I just find nice and pretty I guess. Starting with Sofia which didn't really fit my vibe, then Florence which is a really nice name but a bit too extra for me. Shortened it to Flora but that felt odd.

For two months now my gf and some friends have been calling me Maya. How did I find it? I reminded of the 3D program Maya. I remembered it's also a name. I liked the sound of it and it felt like it fit my vibe and so far that has been the case

[-] Haatveit@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

Maya 3D was the first thing that came to my mind when I saw your username! Weird how some normal names become associated like that.

[-] MayaHorsewoman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago

I mean it's literally how I remembered it being a name. And it's a pretty common one too once you look for it.

I don't mind it for now and it has been more if a conversation starter than anything. Also some one line friends keep calling me mayannaise which is funny as hell to me.

With my deadname playing with the name of it in a mocking way always felt like the worst insult possible to me. With my chosen name it's fun and I take part in it... I think that's a good sign

[-] thumbtack@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago

i agree! if the feminine version of your deadname brings bad memories and feelings, ditch it :) it’s nice that that works for some people, but there’s no reason to feel beholden to it if it’s not for you.

i like maya :) i hope it works for you!