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Thankfully no. My school had lot of non asshole kids (I think kids are usually trained to be selfish assholes) who were kind and patient enough to socialize with weirdos (aka undiag autistic kids) like me. They were the reason I developed somewhat functional (though absolutely not 'normal') social life in adulthood. We are still friends, unfortunately we are spread all over the world nowadays cause life.
I think culture matters too, autistic spectrum friends of mine who went to US schools tend so say having very different experience. Opposite anecdotes were from kids in asia.
No, being a selfish asshole is instinctive for humans. Being egalitarian is what must be taught
I think both traits are taught and at the same time innate at the same time. While growing up, we learn an abstract value system that shapes when we want to be selfish and when not.
Have you taken any developmental psych courses?
Yes, in uni.
Ok then you should know that there is a fucktonne of research about behaviors before values are capable of being learned
I totally know. What I said is what 'I think' not what I 'discovered'. There's isn't more science in it than in an educated guess. Taking a course doesn't make me a behavioral scientist and even then claiming what I know is absolute is pure bs.
... ok so then you know that without social training humans don't really have a value system besides 'make sure my needs are met'...