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Father called me a “leftist”. How is this an insult?? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 9 hours ago by relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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I don’t know where to put this.

I’m a bicurious/hetero young white woman with Christian white parents. My dad found out I support gay rights despite identifying as straight. He didn’t really like that I have a Hispanic fiancé (he was okay with it, but he was like “you could do better, come on.”)

He called me a “leftist lib” because I support interracial marriages, gay marriages, trans rights, etc. How can you use supporting these things an insult though??

I also really want acceptance as someone who is neurodivergent and has seen neurodivergent people and minorities be bullied/discriminated against and also has been bullied themself.

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[–] peto@lemm.ee 7 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Calling someone a liberal when they are leftist is pretty insulting, even fighting words in some company. Though probably not in the way he intended. Many leftists consider liberals to be at best, placing their personal comfort over the need to take action, and at worst as complicit in and defensive of the structures as any fascist. An 'I cant believe it's not facisim' kind of margarine.

Being called a leftist is only an insult if you base your politics on cruelty and hatred. And for such people the idea that you might think about someone else just doesn't compute.

I'm sorry you are having to go through this, it is hard when we realise that our parents are not good people. Especially if they generally treat you well. And often these are the same people who first taught us the basic principles that matured into leftism. To share. To act kindly and be considerate. To tell the truth. To do what is right, not what everyone else is doing.

I'd like to say here is a step by step guide to help your father, but if there is one I don't know anyone who has seen it.

[–] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 5 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

Calling someone a liberal when they are leftist is pretty insulting, even fighting words in some company

I didn’t know this, actually. Thanks!

Being called a leftist is only an insult if you base your politics on cruelty and hatred. And for such people the idea that you might think about someone else just doesn’t compute.

Very true. My father also is a narcissist, which is not to say narcissists can’t be good people with good intentions, but he is not one of them.

I’m sorry you are having to go through this, it is hard when we realise that our parents are not good people. Especially if they generally treat you well. And often these are the same people who first taught us the basic principles that matured into leftism. To share. To act kindly and be considerate. To tell the truth. To do what is right, not what everyone else is doing.

Thank you. 🫂 I completely agree.