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Father called me a “leftist”. How is this an insult?? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 4 hours ago by relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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I don’t know where to put this.

I’m a bicurious/hetero young white woman with Christian white parents. My dad found out I support gay rights despite identifying as straight. He didn’t really like that I have a Hispanic fiancé (he was okay with it, but he was like “you could do better, come on.”)

He called me a “leftist lib” because I support interracial marriages, gay marriages, trans rights, etc. How can you use supporting these things an insult though??

I also really want acceptance as someone who is neurodivergent and has seen neurodivergent people and minorities be bullied/discriminated against and also has been bullied themself.

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[–] Soliae@lemm.ee 16 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Old lady here. Neurodivergent also. Let me share some of what I have learned.

People like your father are, simply put, radicalized by right wing propagandists. Maybe he was a good person at some point in his life, but the propaganda is a tool for brainwashing- he isn’t the person he may once have been. And he probably will never be, again.

To that group, compassion and kindness are considered bad. For this reason, I ask that you use extreme caution and understand that your dad may believe there is ”honor” in hurting you or those you care about. This is a very real possibility and I encourage you to find safe shelter elsewhere, if possible.

If you need help, let us know. Please do not trust this man anymore. I know it’s hard when it is our parents, but many of us have gone through this already and know the process.

[–] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 7 points 3 hours ago

Dad has NPD. I will not trust him at all and I don’t even talk to him much anymore since he started staying in a hotel 30min away.