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Just saw this. I'm really glad you've reached out, you've got a lot going on and it's understandably effected you.
Trauma really gets into our bones and it's really long lasting. It's natural for you to have issues after so much pain going back the years. And of course it's sadly natural for your child to be effected. It's often a game trying to get support and it's a game that's hard to win.
Have you read Why does he do that? It's the best book on domestic abuse ever written and it can help us manage the whole situation. There's also When dad hurts mom about helping mother child recovery. Could help you make things less brutal especially as the system isn't helping you.
I know you feel frustrated, cornered and stuck and with everything that's gone on, it's not surprising. It's hard seeing the past and how we did wrong, and it sounds like you're feeling hopeless. How's the weekend been so far?