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Out on the beach for a while today, i ran across two people waving for attention; turns out they were stuck right past the '4wd only past this point' sign. I got them unstuck, made sure they didnt need anything else and was about to head on my way. One of the women offered me a couple road sodas, and i declined- i havent drank alcohol in about 13 years and have no inclination to start again. The other woman actually scoffed, and said 'what man isnt going to accept a beer from a couple women on the beach, are you a f-slur?'

So i left.

Why the fuck do people who drink alcohol act this way around people who dont drink?

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[–] Sickos@hexbear.net 16 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Ugh, i cannot imagine taking that beyond "thanks, want a beer?" "No" "You sure? I've got extras" (in case it's just awkwardness about taking a gift)

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Nobody should be trying to shame someone into a vice.

[–] Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net 12 points 5 days ago (1 children)

The recurring thought i had was 'shouldnt have stopped'. Honestly ill think twice next time if presented a similar sitch.

[–] InappropriateEmote@hexbear.net 13 points 5 days ago (1 children)

While totally understandable, that just plays into the atomization feedback loop. It was good that you stopped to help people, especially strangers. I wish more people were willing to do that in this ever worsening individualist-diseased society. Next time the people who need help when you're in a position to give it may be fully deserving of it and appreciative. I hope you don't let this bigot be what keeps you from helping others who might need it. Don't let her reprehensibility erode your kindness.

[–] Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago

Thank you for that. That had crossed my mind, and i just sorta stuffed it down. I think you're correct here.