And I haven't see any racist and bigoted posts from Hexbear users. Care to supply proof?

Here's an image and link to their Code of Conduct, to which the first two rules are literally:

• We are committed to providing a friendly, safe and welcoming environment for all, regardless of gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, personal appearance, body size, race, ethnicity, age, religion, nationality, or other similar characteristic.
• Do not use homophobic, transphobic, racist, sexist, ableist, and other reactionary aliases or other nicknames. "Ironic" prejudice is just prejudice.

So, unless you'd like to supply some proof, from my own anecdotal and hard evidence, they seem to support the LGBTQ community and use pronouns to show respect.