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My partner and I talk a lot about visibility. What I think a lot of people miss is that a lot of trans people want stealth. Coming out to everyone that they were born with a body they felt disgusted by and transitioned to who they are today isn't exactly palatable. This, of course, doesn't apply to everyone who's transgender, but it's not that uncommon either.
So why should these people announce to the world that they're trans? It goes against the whole purpose of transitioning. He wishes he was born with a man's body. He hated the body he was born with. He wants people to know he's a man. Why should he tell people when they are likely not going to be supportive at all?
Something we've noticed is that people often have no issue treating him like a dude and think nothing of it up until they somehow learn that he's trans. After that? "They". "She- sorry, he". And so on. Want to know what will happen if he tells everyone at once?
Yeah someone I came out to mentioned an influencer they watched. They had no issue gendering her correctly for years until they learned the influencer is a transwoman, and so there was I was being shown this guy sorry lady and he's- sorry she's really good with makeup and you can't even tell she's a "man"! Really fucking hurts