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Quit Vaping. Holy shit nicotine does a number on your mind.
Quit drinking. Alcohol does a number on your body.
Started working out, even a little goes a long way towards feeling better mind AND body.
Got boner pills. I'm really tall and only in my mid 30s, but have struggled with ED my whole adult life. Amazing how much you can beat yourself up over something so silly, or how much satisfaction you can get out of just being able to fuck like an average cock-haver.
I stopped drinking energy drinks because I have ibs and they worsen my gut symptoms. Since then, my digestive issues have improved a lot. I've also discovered that I can't drink coffee either :/ So I believe that all caffeinated drinks trigger my gut problems. That sucks because I'm addicted to caffeine, especially from energy drinks ... but avoiding them, my quality of life is so much better.
I think that this plus taking the ibs medication could solve the problem. I hope so.
Start working out. Seriously. A little cardio and a little strength training will go a long long way to improving your quality of life, even if you're not getting jacked.
Agree, and I'm someone who hates working out. Someone recently commented on exercising like "why would I choose to be miserable to 30 minutes a day", and I can honestly say it's because it makes you feel so much better the other 23 1/2 hours day. The smallest bit of cardio will make you more energetic, you don't get winded going up stairs, you can move easier, it's such a win. Yes it's miserable, but it is worth it.
It’s amazing that I’m older yet I have significantly less back pain just from working out semi regularly.
This is the way. I’m fitter, stronger, and look better in my mid 40s than I did for most of my 30s. I hurt less, I’m more capable, and I look at the future with a lot more interest and less trepidation.
Split from my abusive wife.
Glad you got away, nobody deserves toxic people in their lives
Make stuff. With your hands,stuff that will last when you walk away from it. I spent a lot of time doing admin/office work, and you can be productive as hell but have nothing to physically look at for your time. I took up woodwork, started doing more building work on my property, and every time I look at what I’ve made, it makes me feel more connected to my home, and more capable of dealing with these weird times we find ourselves in. Learn skills, try different things, round out your experience in life. Make stuff you think is beautiful, or that makes your life better in some way, it’s a great feeling
Instructions unclear
One of those is a baby, you should never listen to babies, they’re dumb af
Source: I’m a baby
Deactivated Facebook about 6 years ago. That shit is toxic and anyone that still has an account supports it.
Bought a house in a quieter neighborhood. Apartment / condo life was destroying my mental health.
Switched to Linux and set up a Jellyfin server.
Laser eye surgery. No more glasses or contacts.
Gotten top surgery. I knew my quality of life was going to improve by virtue of not having boobs that gave me dysphoria, but I thought I would have to wait until I was fully healed to feel it. My mood and outlook changed pretty much day after my surgery. It feels great :)
Sailing the high seas again.
Rewired, replumbed, insulated, and reroofed the house. Installed an Enphase System Controller 3 along with an IQ Combiner 5, and a pair of IQ5P batteries, have three IQ8A microinverters hooked to 400w bifacial panels so far. Have a total of 18 panels to install as I'm working on the racking. Also need replace the windows and a few other things but there is a lot of stuff in progress. Been a huge benefit and QOL boost overall.
Learning to Scuba dive helped my mental health a ton after becoming a widower. Diving in general had been great for me, I just wish I could go more often.
In no particular order :
Started exercising every day. All I do is 10 pushups, 60 seconds of planking, and 30 sit-ups. It takes less than 10 minutes and I've done it for about a year and a half and I've got a nicely toned stomach and better core strength from it. I'm pretty happy about it and it definitely makes me more confident. I also watch what I eat. I've lost about 40lbs in that time
Stop drinking alcohol.
If you're on the fence just do it, I don't know anyone who regrets it.
Made an effort to say "yes" when people invite me or are making plans. It's meant I get more invites, and have done and seen many things that I would've have otherwise. Picked up some new fun hobbies along the way too!
Don't be cheap with footwear or beds.
Or tires or flooring. Basically anything that goes between you and the ground
Stop drinking alcohol
I stopped drinking a year and a half ago, quit vaping 3 years ago (quit smoking butts a few years before that) and in the last 5 years or so have significantly inproved my diet. Holy crap do I feel better. Less fatigued, more focused, sleep better I can go on. I still smoke more weed than I should, need to try cutting that out at least for a little bit too but its my last vice...
In the past year:
• switched to minimalist footwear (so many physical ailments eased/disappeared)
• downloaded an app that reminds me to stand up & walk for 5 minutes every half hour
• got rid of all social media except the Fediverse
• got FL-41 glasses to help me function with migraines
• got an RSS feed app to let me keep up with all media & creators I want to keep up with, without the mental health strain of endless scrolling, algorithms, & toxic comments
Mental healthcare provider hopping. You don't really know what a good one is like until you've had one. A lot of people try one, work really hard and get nowhere, either because their therapist is a crank, or maybe they're a competent professional that just doesn't work for them for whatever reason, so they conclude that therapy is a sham and they stop pursuing it.
I think it's good practice to evaluate whether what you're doing in therapy is helping at regular intervals. If it ain't, talk about it with your provider and if y'all can't fix it, hit the bricks and find someone who can. If your therapist is worth their salt they'll be happy to provide you with a reference if you ask. If they aren't, all the more reason to find someone better.
Installed a bidet. What a beautiful thing to always have a clean bum.
Went absolutely ham with cycling in January, down 30kg as of today, still 5 to go. Trying to reach that 4W/kg FTP eventually 😅
So many things. But then other things happened and undone those QoL changes.
Polyamory + dnd also has a synergy bonus. Plenty of candidates for a regular group 😁
Willful bachelorhood.
I have total license over my space, time, and money. I don't have a wife or kids nagging me every day. I wake up to a quiet, clean house.
The whole culture is trying to tell me I'm a loser, but I found the cheat code to a better life and I'm not jealous of anyone stuck supporting another person.
Laser eye surgery and sterilisation.
I still use sunglasses and condoms for protection, but can gladly go without on overcast days and in steady relationships, and I panic way less if they break when I need them the most.
I bought a sit stand desk. After my back was broken, games and work became difficult. Now I can do both while standing. One of the best purchases of my adult life.
basically stopped trying to make other folks happy with me. and focusing on doing things that make me happy, even if other folks hate me for it.
I want pancakes now. Anyway, I bought man leggings. It's so fucking comfortable. It's like my ass and legs are being hugged. I love it so much. That's about all I got. I'm really craving pancakes now because of OP.
stopped trying to discuss things with idiot fundamentalists on lemmy
it's a waste of time, these people are stupid
Strength training, protein, and Creatine (10 grams a day) is a winning combination.
I recently splurged on an expensive oled monitor and I must say I wish I had done this much sooner.
I'm nearsighted and the contrast really helps keep my eyes from feeling tired.
With small font I can notice an halo effect but it's much better than the glowing black light of my old ips screen.
Marrying and having kids.
Sure the baby year fucks you up. But once they can go to daycare, life starts to normalise again.
Turns out, caring for other people gives you purpose and makes you happy.
I love this for you, and I have a similar experience. Please people do not get married and have kids because you think it will make you happier. A lot of childhoods have been ruined this way.
Blocking name callers on Lemmy. It's a very small community and it makes a huge difference. Anyone that is hateful enough to type out useless mean things instead of just a simple downvote is someone to avoid. Charged criticism that clearly denotes an opinion, contrasting view, attempts to provide education, or offers an opportunity to educate is all good. I'm not trying to live in an echo chamber. But, if it's a simple mean spirited slur or jab even at someone else's comment - block! It really cleans up the feed fast. Most people here are pretty on edge, but there's only a handful of total assholes and they can be avoided.
Getting a Dumbphone. I've never regretted it, though there are some changes I wish mine did & didn't have, I've never thought about switching back, let alone happily, It has what I want & need it to do without me having distractions I have to look at to use my phone, Calls, Texts, Photos, Music, Alarms & the snake is decent,
Getting up really really early. weirdly, as a night owl I love getting up super early, it's hard to get into, & you can mess it up quite easily, but wonderful when you do get into the groove of it, there's a lot of guilt when staying up late but when up early you get all the benefits of being up late without the guilt, you can often catch the night before the sun is up, let alone the rest of the world, great stuff.
These aren't for everyone ofc, this is just my experience.
ITT: Do / don't have kids / do drugs
