Writing! It exorcises the bad feelings onto the page where they are trapped forever.
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Full-contact boffer fighting. Feels good man. I can only imagine what the Buhurt loonies get out of it.
Run up mountain! Run up mountain until brain not working and feel like vomit!
Masturbating
Deep-chested, full-volume, belt-it-out singing. Especially if it's either super sad or very angry.
Recommendation: Brownie Mountain from Tim & Eric Awesome Show Great Job. It's a melancholy anthem that rewards - and, in fact, requires - fully-commited vocals, while at the same time also being a song about accidentally eating a literally mountain-sized pile of brownies.
Primal screaming in an enclosed space, like an elevator
Crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentation of the women!
I am once again reminded I lack an original thought
Same. Came here to drop this banger and I am gazumped by toast.
I mean, this is a quote from Conan the Barbarian, so it's not an original thought for toast.
I will admit I could be misunderstanding something though.
Buttery toast
Using it as a reference as a joke in this context was what I meant
Weeding the yard, one grass plant at a time
I had a neighbor who used a pair of scissors to cut his grass regularly. It wasn’t a big yard, maybe 12ft x 12ft, but he’d be out there all the time kneeling and trimming his grass.
One day I asked why he didn’t just use a mower, and he said it gives him a chance to get some time away from his wife lol
Haven’t thought of that dude in a long time.
Violence & Physical activity to the point of exhaustion.
Working a heavy bag or chopping firewood are great examples.
Choppin' wood SLAPS DUDE ITS SO GOOD
Surfing. Especially by myself.
talking into a fan so that your voice sounds funny
The ocean
My father always said, the ocean washes away all your sins. He meant that it helps get rid of a hangover, but I find that it helps in a lot of other ways too.
This definitely. Walking on a beach with nobody around does it for me.
Sad sad songs.
Boulder to Birmingham
Red dirt girl
Nick Drake song Road because he did not find a road to take him home.
Dancing can, if I feel free enough. Like going out dancing someplace.
Toss in Deja entendu by brand new some time. If you want a sad album it is like a soul dredge.
planning ways to destroy my enemies
Sleeping
Eating good food.
And by good food, I mean food that is healthy for you and satisfying and novel enough that it causes the receptors in your brain to start firing off.
It's a rare treat to find a place that even offers that.
The last time I went to Portland I stumbled across a restaurant called kebab and had Egyptian chicken kusharia and it was so good that it made my entire week. I'm still thinking about that chicken kusharia and that was back in April.
too much effort, just get me a sliggy instead
catharsis
Riding a bike far into the woods.
Listening to a really good album.
There’s a good chance my wife will find me crying over Everything Goes Numb tonight.
It’s been a fucking week.
Oh man. Streetlight strikes some emotional chords that nobody else can reach for me. Somewhere in the Between is my personal favorite album, but Everything Goes Numb is also 100% amazing songs. Plus, I swear that every time I've seen them live I walk out thinking "that might have been the best fucking show I've ever been to."
Whatever you're going through, I hope you wake up in a better place in a better time.
Thanks sibling. It’s been a thousand tiny cuts this week but I’m holding on.
Both of those albums hold a ton of significance for me. I actually sang the song “Somewhere in the Between” as a lulllaby to my kid, but ETGN helped me through my other kid’s suicide attempt.
I’m glad to find someone who loves Streetlight like I do. If we haven’t met in the pit already, I hope we do soon.
(Assuming Tomas ever finishes the next album)
Sex with my wife and fishing
* finishing
Na. many times I just enjoy just finishing her
Music
Making up jokes about whatever the upsetting situation is.
One of my favorite jokes of all time is "that'll frac." (Used to be in the oilfield) but saying it after something has failed catastrophically. Like a 2500 HP throwing a rod, or hoses exploding. I wish I could employ that strategy inwardly.
This works well.
I love mocking billionaires in my YT videos, in part, because it is in fact cathartic.
Running.
Gardening.
Walking my dog.
Shooting my guns.
Getting rid of stuff at the dump.
Watching "The Death of a Salesman" by Arthur Miller
sex. the end especially, when we are happy and cuddly.
Playing “I sank it!”
Take a rock, imbue it with the emotion, the essence of what’s bothering you… name it the thing that is causing you grief, and chuck it in the fucking lake.
Singing (although depending on the mood and selection of songs, this may lead to crying).
Sex. Not masturbation, tho. If that ever leads to crying, they must've broke my dick.
Whistling.
Never discount what a good masturbation can do, or a nap. One after the other is even better.
If those don’t work and weather permits it, just going outside and watching nature is very cathartic for me. Not feeling trapped in an apartment or situation.
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