Don't bother with trading. Timing the market is a fool's game. It's all about time in the market. Just stick your money in and let it sit there. As you age you will want to move your money to safer investments and focus more on wealth preservation.

Also focus on spending time with your loved ones and doing things that make you happy. When people are at the end of their lives, no one wishes that they had grinded harder or obtained a higher status.

Also not realistic to be in a good headspace everyday. You're just going to burn yourself out trying to do that. You're going to have bad days. You're going to have slow days. Just do your best and hope that tomorrow will be better.

Just invest in mutual funds, max out your roth ira contributions every year. Don't try and make a living by trading, set aside 10-15% of your income to mutual funds and leave it there until you're old. Get a job and max out your contributions, or at least max out employer contributions.

Wear sunblock.

Acquire difficult to learn, useful, and easy to implement skills that people will pay good money for. Medicine and engineering are your best bet for a high floor. Unless you have a Bloomberg terminal and are a math whiz, don’t waste your time trying to make money as a day trader. You might get lucky, but chances are you won’t. Stay out of debt as best you can.

You didn’t ask, but I know any warm blooded 20 year old is going to be thinking about it. When it comes to women, no one is out of your league. Repeat that to yourself. No one is out of your league. The manifestation shit does work with the ladies. They respond to confidence. The more you get into the batters box and swing, the more confidence you will have the next time you get into the batters box. Eventually you will hit a home run. Hall of fame baseball players fail more than they succeed. Don’t be afraid of rejection and don’t take it personally. Just get back in the batters box and swing away.

I'm afraid the actual advice I'd give myself is something I think most people already know by that point.

Failing that, "it's not what you know, it's who you know", since there's the opposite idea around. If you have to choose between a network and actual basic competence, it really looks like the network gets you further, now that I've seen more of life. (Both is of course ideal)

On investments, yeah, a boring diversified portfolio will lead the pack. On the law of attraction, just what about this universe seems like it's designed to give you want you want? That's not how anything works; take whatever you do have, and build on it, one day at a time.

Failure isn't always a negative, it can be an educational experience to carry on. Don't be afraid of failure, use it to learn, be afraid of success. It's fickle.

does manifestation actually work

Not unless your parents are rich.

| does manifestation actually work

only the part where you are doing shit to make things happen works. I guess if you have nothing left to do towards a goal then doing affirmations doesn't hurt to use it to make yourself feel better, but it's not going to make something happen for you.

If you're asking about head space, that might be your first sign of burn out. Stop it. Pick a stable, well performing ETF and regularly invest in it. Forget about it for 40 years.

Actual advice: Go to the gym or be otherwise active. I've been overweight my whole life (am software engineer) and just recently started investing in MYSELF. The workout sucks, but the results in the morning shower and the mirror feel good. Remember, after ~32 it becomes harder and harder to build and maintain muscle mass.

had some bad losses in trading lately, took a short break and now trying to actually fix my risk management before going back in

Good for you getting out. Don't get back in. No more day trading. Day trading is anti-social shithead behavior, anyway. If you don't feel bad for doing it, take a closer look. It doesn't pass any kind of pro-social test.

if you're older and already been through your 20s, what do you wish someone told you back then?

Someone did tell me this, but I was a stupid kid. I followed it, but I started stupdily late.

Maybe you're smarter than I was, but forgive yourself later if you're not - you're at least in good company.

Here is is:

"Time in the market always beats market timing. Buy conservative things with real value - ideally that routinely pay a dividend. Hold on to them.

However powerful you think you know compounding interest is, you're wrong. It's substantially more powerful than that.

Get it - compounding interest - on your side right now, and keep it there, anytime you can.

Don't take out any debt that you can possibly avoid."

Check out Mr. Money Mustache and related resources, like this one, https://livingafi.com/2014/01/21/how-to-live-in-corporate-prison/. That guy did go back to work, due to unexpected divorce and health issues that changed the math. Still lots of good posts on bad workplaces, how to deal with work in healthier ways, and navigating stages of his life was relatable.

With a do-over, I would have picked 100% growth fund in the 401k from the start. If you want some bond funds too, buy them separate, not the target-date or other mixed funds, so you decide which fund type to sell when you want to. Good luck!

had some bad losses in trading lately, took a short break and now trying to actually fix my risk management before going back in

Unless you have insider trading knowledge, start with a huge amount of money, or find some other way to cheat, Trading is just gambling.

If you want to invest, put your money in index funds. I used to say the SP500 or 100, but unfortunately Musk has been allowed to just offload his losses into those funds.

SP500 High Dividend Yield (Other companies have similar) are a decent option, they focus on the 500 companies with historically high dividends.

if you’re older and already been through your 20s, what do you wish someone told you back then? like what actually mattered vs what you thought mattered at the time.

1. Stay active, you don't need to be in the gym 24/7, but find something athletic that you enjoy doing, try to stay in the habit of doing something athletic for an hour every other day at a minimum.

2. Avoid the sugar trap. I get it, soda tasts good, cookies taste good, but the more sugar you eat, the harder it is to avoid sugar later. Get in the habit of eating healthy while you are 20, it will save your life later.

3. Learn to snack better (if you are a snacker). Snacking is fine, snacking on poptarts, mini doughnuts and soda will kill you. I use chia-seed pudding when I am getting snacky, very low calorie, and as a bonus it has a lot of fiber. Make it with a nice tea, and its a tasty, healthy snack that can last the whole time between lunch and dinner.

4. Avoid the manosphere/redpill/Christian Values/Alpha Male trap. It doesnt impress the ladies, it wont make you friends, it just makes you miserable (and then telling you that its everyone elses fault, but they totally see how great you can be if you just buy this 69.99 protein powder).

5. (And this is probably the most important) Learn to not be a an asshole, the bar is literally so low for men that just being a decent human being will get you plenty of attention. Learn to be respectful when women say no, learn to not care if somebody else is gay/trans/black/fat/bald etc, and especially learn to not make fun of people for it. Learn to talk to people, and hang out without putting them down. Learn to be genuinly happy for others successes, and how to build up others.

This will make you actual friends that stay with you, will impress the ladies (seriously, im of average looks and build, and I have a GF, 2 FWB and 2 more sometimes partners, all just from being an actually kind, decent, safe person), and will set you up to have a much more fulfilling life.

In my experience - manifestation kind of works by changing your focus, you notice opportunities that you might have missed. Though I once manifested a board for our bed by saying I need a board for the bed then opening the door and there was a big board propped up in an alley, and another time a big cardboard box for baby chicks sort of the same way, just looked around wherever I went and found one the same day.

I don't think it works like that for money, you aren't going to find it in the alley, but focusing on it can help you get a better job because you are telling people you need one (networking) and open to opportunities to make more money.

Same with wanting a boyfriend/girlfriend. Having that energy, the openness to experience attracts more people.

Manifestation is just wishful thinking. If you want your life to change, you have to take the actual steps to change it.

also anyone here into manifestation/law of attraction, does it actually work

No.

Just work a real job and learn applicable and useful skills, stop trying to be a successful leach. You’re just gambling.

Manifestation is bullshit, there is no magical method for getting life to just hand you whatever you want outside of working for it or getting very lucky, which won’t ever happen twice, anyone telling you otherwise is grifting you. It’s stupid cosmic woo woo nonsense.

Nothing will ever be handed to you, you only get what you work for, which means you have valid reason to value and celebrate your achievements when you reach them. You don’t stay in a good headspace every day, that’s a naive expectation. Shit will suck and shit will be awesome, most of the time shit will be banal, you take it one day at a time and do the work to be the best version of yourself you can manage.

Nobody owes you a fucking thing.

also anyone here into manifestation/law of attraction, does it actually work for you? not asking to like wish for money lol, more curious how you actually get into a good headspace and stay there day to day

I remember the random people I've interacted that I really liked.

Then I taught myself enough acting skills to pretend to be that person.

I get genrally better service than anyone else.

I also tip well, because I can. That probably helps, but that's not why I do it.

As others said: Choose to fall in love with brushing and flossing your teeth.

Make that shit your "me" time.

Experiment with expensive or esoteric ways to make it feel great.

If it's not the best part of your day, change things up until it is.

I would have suffered less if I had figured this out sooner.

Get a degree in something you know for a fact pays well. It can be boring to you, its just a thing you'll do for money. Ideally you'll want enough to support yourself, your hobbies and social life.

Also manifestation is a pointless mystification of being confident about your goals and pursuing them; if you believe in it, you behave in ways that facilitate reaching your goals. Skip the middleman and believe in yourself instead.

I wish someone had told me index funds only, forget trading, just grind compound interest for decades.

Also: lift barbells, floss, read more doom-scroll less.

Stop with the trading. Get sensible investments like index funds in a 401k or something. You can't simply manifest something. If it helps you to have mantras to repeat that's awesome and can be helpful to some people, but you have to actually live those words. Manifest it through your actions.

Manifestation doesn't work.

You set goals and work towards them. Discipline, work and the ability to learn from your mistakes will take you further than wishing on a star.

Manifestation is bullshit.

Don't trade your money away. Open a Traditional and Roth IRA, put some money in those accounts for retirement, and don't touch it. You'll literally be penalized if you do.

If you have parents, loved ones, or even for yourself: Prepare a trust. Don't wait until you or anyone is on your deathbed to make those arrangements. It may seem insignificant now, but even the smallest item you possess will need to be disputed if you die, so don't make that a hassle for any future children or your relatives. And don't worry, trust are flexible, you have the final say, so make as many changes to it as you need to. As fractured as the relationship with my father was, him prepping a will, trust, advanced medical directive and a memorandum made inheriting his possessions much less of a hassle than it would've been otherwise.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket when it comes to a career. Be flexible with your skillset and be willing to work the smaller jobs just to get experience and some money, even if they don't align with your big career plans, because they'll still offer experience that you can carry with you. I'm a year and a half out of work because I put all my eggs into IT and Data Analysis.

Make sure you're in a good headspace before jumping into a relationship. Take it at your own pace. Most importantly, be upfront with your partner about what you want out of the relationship, whether it's a one-night stand, or a long-term relationship. And make sure you both communicate what you want. I only had five months of dating experience back in high school, and my most recent relationship ended after a week because I was so desperately acting on signs that weren't there, which led me to ignoring my own boundaries and hurting my ex because I was two-faced.

Make sure to set boundaries and protect yourself above all else. You're no good to anyone if you're no good to yourself. Take time to recharge. If you're not feeling up to something physically, emotionally or mentally, it's okay to cancel or step back. Just don't make a habit of it. As a people pleaser, I would overload my plate with saying yes to nearly everyone and everything, trying to be the "nice guy" or "helpful steward" when I was really allowing myself to be strung along because I couldn't say no. Learning to say "no" is so important for yourself and for those you love.

Yo! I'm 25 years old, so not quite a wisened ancient, but I think I still have some good advice to dish out to a youngster such as you.

MANIFESTATION DOES NOT WORK!

Actions work. You want money? Find ways to make money. You want to travel more? Find the time and the funds to travel. Wagering your success on wishful thinking is nonsense, and I say this lovingly.

If you want a better headspace, I suggest journaling; it doesn't need to be serious or regular, just write down your thoughts and think through your options on paper, process your emotions in ink.

Also, taking some time once in a while to clear your head can do wonders. No music, no books, no videos... Just you and your thoughts. Sit on a park bench or just in your room and be quiet. Relax. I like to do this on my daily walks; I call it "raw-dogging the world", and it's a little weird at first, but it's good.

TRADING IS TOO RISKY

Look, I know some people can do it and succeed, even long term, but you have no reason to believe you're one of those people. You know how I know you have no reason to believe it? You have no industry backing. I suggest you get off trading and do some long-term, boring, diversified investment and stick to it.

Trading can be part of a good investment portfolio and strategy, especially if you're willing to put time into learning how to do it well, but it should never (and I mean never) be the way you make money, unless you have institutional capital backing you. Which you don't.

If you're American, maybe you can stick to an S&P500 index fund and be satisfied; I prefer an all-world fund.

Seriously, trading should be maybe 5 in every 100 bucks you invest, if you're crazy. If you're sane, it's 0.

Physical Fitness

Please, please pay attention to your physical fitness. I was very fat (obese) at your age, and it was terrible. At the time I didn't realise just how terrible it was, but when I shed the weight I felt like such a moron for having been so unhealthy for so long. Also, I was so weak! I'm not strong, per se, but even the little working out I have done in the years since has changed my life.

Seriously. Eat right, stay at a healthy weight, and do some basic exercises regularly. Go for walks or something, some push-ups and squats, nothing fancy. Just stay reasonably physically fit. It will pay dividends later on, but it will also feel WAY better RIGHT NOW! I swear.

Career

I'm still figuring this one out, but so far my strategy of aggressive upward mobility has worked out fine. Don't be afraid to change jobs, send out applications to random stuff that seemingly doesn't fit your experience level or CV... Just, try to get a job you don't hate and that pays good enough, and then try to get a better job (or a raise). Again, definitely don't take this as gospel or anything (you should take the physical fitness advice as gospel, by the way; I'm serious, it's insane the difference it makes), but it's what's worked so far.

Friends and Hobbies

I regret letting go of my social life entirely. I'm very asocial and bad with people, but it can be fun if you know how to balance it with everything else, and it gets really much harder to get back into being social after you've gone years without engaging with anyone. So, get friends and stay in touch! Just a little, if that's all you care to do, but at least do something so you don't lose them.

For hobbies, I definitely think that spending hours doomscrolling on TikTok was a terrible mistake I was making at your age. Or YouTube. Seriously, read more. Read literary fiction, old books new books, any author, whatever. Just read more. Non-fiction too, from actual experts (not wannabe gurus that pump out self-help drivel). Read more, learn more about a variety of subjects, educate yourself.

Again, these are things that I noticed I failed at at your age, and now as I have changed or am still changing my habits and priorities, I'm seeing the difference it makes.

Parents

I don't know what your parents are like, but my parents (and my family in general) is very helpful and supportive. If you can rely on them, do rely on them. It's OK. But also, make sure to spend quality time with them and pay back their efforts with love and appreciation, and probably most of all, pay them back by being happy. If you're feeling unhappy, if you feel stuck or lost or anything like that, speak with the people you can trust and rely on, and let them help you. They want to see you happy, and they will do right by you if you let them.

This is my experience, and I do hope you can do that too, though I realise it might unfortunately not be the case.

Don't do trading. Unless you've got millions you're spending hours making dollars, if you win more than you lose at all. It's fine if it's a hobby but treat it as such.

Manifesting: does not work outside of your head. If it gets you in a good mental state then by all means do it. Being in a good mental state is just about all that matters.

What worked for me: buy and hold. Find people you like being around. Figure out why you like being around them and try to be more like them.

Isn't trading nearly the same as gambling if you're not good at it? Well even if you're good at it is still gambling.

Strengthen your core. Back pain in your 30s is a bitch.

Floss daily.

When reality challenges your ideology, engage with the challenge in earnest. It's okay to be unwise and ignorant in your early 20s, but if with time you did not gain wisdom and experience, you're gonna have a very bad time going forward. By the time you're in your 30s, you should be able to encapsulate and verbally explain what you believe in, both about the universe as a whole and about yourself.

Stick to your word as well as you can.

Being good is more important than being comfortable.

Don't let fear stop you from trying to reach your goals, many times whatever you're afraid of is simply not real or not as bad. And yes, this includes talking to women.

Also, if you're always chasing money, you'll lose your humanity. Remember it should just be a tool, a means to an end and not the end by itself, else you'll become an empty shell of a person, a resource hog or even a hedonistic monster.

Finally, always take the high road and let the guilt following actions taken in moments of poor character wash over you. If you don't let it stay with you, if you run from accountability, you will just become a dangerous child.

PS: You're too old (like, maybe a decade and a half too old) and probably have too much testosterone to believe in "manifestation". Might as well wait for Christmas and write a letter to Santa. You just do your best and hope for the best (for the sake of your emotional stability AND to give yourself the best chances to accomplish what you set out to do).

There's no magic answer. My best advice having wasted half my life trying to accomplish what seemed like a "good life" I ended up nearly broke and divorced with almost nothing but suffering to show for my time.

Now I pursue what makes me happy and only try to be as successful as I need to be so that I can keep doing what makes me happy. One day I'll be dead, and then whatever pile of shit I accumulated will be unceremoniously thrown in the trash by a distant relative. But if I can build something or help someone, then that's what I feel like doing with my time. Its not hedonism but its sort of a disengage ment from the rat race. Im not trying to get rich or gain power, I'm trying to relax and enjoy my life and help people while I can.

Quitting gambling would be a good start.

Aside from that, just finish your studies and take it from there.

As an almost 60 year old :

• look after your teeth. Brush after every meal
• eat properly. A bit of junk food occasionally is fine, but don’t overdo it
• exercise regularly. You don’t have to be an athlete if you don’t want to, but keep your body strong and active
• don’t smoke. Anything, ever.
• put some money aside regularly for your retirement, and never touch it until then

“If I could start again 
A million miles away 
I would keep myself 
I would find a way”

Day trading = day gambling

I'm turning 40 in a few days, heres my advice based on my own failures and some successes.

WORK

Don't pursue something you love as a hobby, because you will stop loving it as work. Exceptions to this are if you're naturally good at it AND it's traditionally a high paying field. For example, as a little kid, the weekly newspaper had a section containing house floor plans for sale. I used to take that instead of the comics, and id 'mark' them, pointing out what was good, and what was shit, and I drew hundreds and hundreds of my own house plans in meticulous detail as a 10-year old. I should have studied to be an architect. I would have lost passion for it, but at least I would have been naturally talented at it, which would have made my job easier, and therefore life happier.

If you are naturally talented at illustration, writing or another art, don't pursue that as work. Your passion for it will be destroyed and you won't be successful making a career of it. Instead, find something you're naturally okay at, and do that as a career. The only way to do this is by trying tons of hobbies, and losing interest in them. A lot of people pick up hobbies and lose interest and think they are wasting their time and failing. That's not true, they are learning about themselves. Keep on finding and trying new hobbies. You're not failing at them, you're auditioning them for the role, and most wont make the cut.

If you find that you pick up electronics easily, perhaps you should be an electrical engineer. If you can fix cars really well, shoot for diesel engineer. If you like boats, then maybe maritime engineering. If you are naturally very attentive to detail, like to be organised, and can convince people of things with your words, maybe consider lawyering. If you enjoy sculpting, then welding or civil engineering would be a good fit. If you love talking to people, socialising, making friends, doing banter, then there are a range of things that might suit you, Real Estate, public relations, sales rep. If you are of moderate to high intelligence and still aren't sure, choose a trade, like electrician, gas plumber, HVAC, solar tech, baker, butcher, cheesemonger. These have low barrier to entry, you can get paid to learn, and will always be an excellent backup option, and as a moderately intelligent person, you're going to already be in an advantageous position and will excel in the field.

Which brings me to backup options. Don't put all your efforts into one industry. As we see with the rise of AI decimating the software development industry, you can do everything right and still lose. I happened into this mindset accidentally. I started my working career as a metal worker machinist at 17. Then I started welding, and did that for 5 years. Then I went into the tech field as an IT grunt, on-call service tech in the hospital industry (nightmare), then I got into software engineering, then software design. During this transition I studied a completely unrelated degree at uni that is applicable to some rather specific government jobs and also worked weekends as a machine operator for an arborist and got my truck and EWP license. In a roundabout way, I became an architect by accident, just of software rather than houses. But if that went tits up tomorrow, I could easily get a job as a machine operator the following day, which paid almost as much, and I could look for a job as a welder, or machinist, or look for a job in the government sector I mentioned. I could even get a job in a bar because I have experience there and a liquor serving permit. Keep your options open, which leads me to:

EDUCATION

No matter how bare ass broke you get, education is the one thing the bank and repo men can't repossess. This makes it a good investment. As mentioned above, either study something you're naturally pretty good at and has prospects of a well paying job, or study something that definitively gives you options if your first plan goes sideways. It could be a uni degree, or a trade, or a certificate, just get something. Yeah it takes 2-4 years and that seems like a long time, but my dude, life goes on so much longer than that afterwards. The reason I didn't study architecture was because 4 years seemed like an eternity when I was 20, and I was afraid I would lose interest in it. If I had known that, yes I'll lose interest in it as a hobby and end up disliking it just like any other job, BUT I'll find it easy because I'm naturally good at it, this would have changed my whole mindset. Make your working life easier.

Education doesn't stop at university. Where possible, get employers to upskill you. If they won't, do it yourself. Occupational First aid, forklift license (unironically despite the meme, I drive a forklift sometimes in my day job as a software architect when the warehouse staff are all absent, and it's so much fun), truck license, alcohol serving permit, chainsaw safety, EWP, Hiab crane, open cabling (network and telecoms), whatever piques your interest. Some of these are required licenses, and others are just optional training, but both types are useful. These sorts of courses take a couple of days, cost a couple hundred bucks, but you'll have the education for life. You might even find a new thing you're naturally good at or meet fun people. Have I used my boat skippers license once since I got it? No, but it was a hella fun way to spend a weekend and $200.

SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS

Holy hell this one is a resource drain if you let it be. Boys, girls, gay, straight, nobi, trans, Polytechnic, only the Aroace get a reprieve from this one, and even for them, there is much to be lost here.

Sex doesn't matter, and it won't make you happy over any sort of timescale. Sex is like doing a whippet in the backseat of your friends hyundai behind a closed gas station, you'll feel nice for 10 minutes before the regret sets in and you ask "What the fuck am I doing with my life?" Before doing another whippet to escape the shame. Unfortunately sex is a base biological imperative for most people, and it will make them stupid things. I'm not immune to that, but with age, I have developed through experience and exposure some resistance towards the impulse to do dumb shit and squander money for that next whippet.

A fulfilling relationship has many facets, and sex is one of them, but a small one, and in some cases the sex facet can be a barrier to success of a fulfilling relationship if expectations are not aligned or honestly is not being practiced. My advice on relationships might be controversial, but you should not be seeking someone who makes you happy or someone who completes you. It's not someone else's job to fill in gaps in your life that are lacking or that you haven't or aren't willing to work on. Each person should bring to the relationship the whole of themselves without expectation of getting a crutch to lean on, because this leads to asymmetry, unmet expectation, and resentment. An asymmetry might develop or become apparent, and that's ok, but it is then the responsibility of the person with the weakness to work on improving themselves and the responsibility of the.person being leaned on to communicate expectations and boundaries. If one person loses a job and becomes financially dependent on the other, that isn't a reason to end a relationship , in fact it can strengthen a relationship and spur personal growth on both sides, learning humility, gratitude, strength, compassion. But if that dynamic lasts a long time, or if the unemployed person doesn't make any effort to reduce their dependency, then resentment will seep in.

I recommend this short read, The Abilene Paradox, to better understand expectation, resentment and what happens in interpersonal relationships when honesty is missing:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abilene_paradox

DRUGS

Try them if you want, but recognise their hazards and your own weaknesses. Most of my friends were heavy drug users, including cocaine, meth, and heroin, most were alcoholics. All of us are over 30 now, and all of us are clean and sober, and happier for it. If you think you're becoming habitual or dependent on a drug, try to catch it early, go to a meeting, talk to a psych, read trip reports for 8 hours, whatever you can do to build your own awareness and cognizance of its dynamic in your life. Again, this will be an unpopular opinion, but if you thing you are even slightly dependent on alcohol, don't wait 15 years, get help right away. It doesn't have to be an AA meeting, but they are free after all. Detox and Rehab is very expensive.

Lastly, the world is not going to end, even though it feels like it will. I felt that way all my life. Why bother committing to anything when the only useful skill I'll need is scavenging food scraps and hiding from roving bands of cannibals in a radioactive wasteland. It took surviving multiple once-in-a-lifetime catastrophes to realise "oh, the world's going to keep on going, and it's going to drag me with it if I don't walk." Don't let the deep apathy in forever, dip your toes in if you need to, but then get on with your day.

Hope that helps in some way. I have a lot of regret in my life, but most of it is either repairable or teachable. Its ok to look back, but it's rude to stare.

Learn to be comfortable being bored. This will take you a LONG way

I'll try and keep it universal.

Don't do stocks short term, if you want to invest before having money, go for an ETF savings plan (some money every month into the same ETF) and maybe something your government co-funds.

You can buy stocks once it doesn't hurt and you can hold them with no issues. But ETF are good and safe.

Find what comes easy to you, invest in that. You're good with people? Great, so work with them. If you're cool with having conflict with them, gain some knowledge in a field where they need you to say "No" professionally and reap the benefits (Auditors aren't poor people, neither are managers). If you're not a conflict person, maybe you enjoy Sales, if you fall in-between, project management may work for you. If you're a technician go be a technician, you'll always complain but never be poor and usually you'll enjoy the complaining. Or maybe there's a trade that you can really enjoy, that's great too.

Important is that you don't have to try hard to hit the basic goals every day, there should be some ease in what you do, cause you can't always be at 100%.

Talking about 100%:

80% is enough. It's fine to stretch for the ceiling, but keep in mind that it's a stretch. It's okay to not reach it, you're not a worse person for it, you're a better person for trying.

"Fake it, till you make it" works, but you have to be ready to make some mistakes. They happen to everyone, you're not alone. And it also works if you want to be happier or wiser or just a little more fit. Just keep at it, if you occasionally drop the ball, pick it back up and keep going. Each time you pick it back up, you learned something new.

Last and most important:

You as a human being don't need to do or be anything to be whole and complete and worthy of love. You're fine just the way you are.

That doesn't mean you should stop trying to be who you want to be, it just means that your value isn't determined by money or business achievements. There's joy in progression, go get what you want, just don't measure your value by that.

Mentioned in the last post of yours. If you aren't managing your mental health, it will hurt you in the long run. Seek therapy.