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Ye Power Trippin' Bastards

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This is a community in the spirit of "Am I The Asshole" where people can post their own bans from lemmy or reddit or whatever and get some feedback from others whether the ban was justified or not.

Sometimes one just wants to be able to challenge the arguments some mod made and this could be the place for that.


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All posts should follow this basic structure:

  1. Which mods/admins were being Power Tripping Bastards?
  2. What sanction did they impose (e.g. community ban, instance ban, removed comment)?
  3. Provide a screenshot of the relevant modlog entry (don’t de-obfuscate mod names).
  4. Provide a screenshot and explanation of the cause of the sanction (e.g. the post/comment that was removed, or got you banned).
  5. Explain why you think its unfair and how you would like the situation to be remedied.

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Make sure you follow this instance's code of conduct. In other words we won't allow bellyaching about being sanctioned for hate speech or bigotry.

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  • Which mods/admins were being Power Tripping Bastards?

A mod in !onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone

  • What sanction did they impose (e.g. community ban, instance ban, removed comment)?

Deleted comment comment on Healthy ruleationships in 196@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Reason: Rude and excessively confrontational
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  • Provide a screenshot of the relevant modlog entries (don’t de-obfuscate mod names).

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  • Provide a screenshot and explanation of the cause of the sanction (e.g. the post/comment that was removed, or got you banned).

notice my jovial “⚡”🔗

  • Explain why you think its unfair and how you would like the situation to be remedied.

Removal of a very cordial & jovial explanation of my anarchist stance regarding monogamy was misread as “rude and confrontational.” I ended conversations respectfully, not expecting backlashes of monogamists in what I thought was a very sarcastic post “Healthy ruleationships.” All I want is the comments returned. The thread can stay locked if the community wishes, and I will not engage in it anymore.

That is all.

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[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You're subject line is needlessly conflating a community and an instance... This was a community mod action, not a blahaj instance action.

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -5 points 1 month ago
[–] zombiebikini@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

These comments are neither cordial or jovial. YDI

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Is a lighting emoji not a signifier of jovial² intent?

🥰🤣👌²

then stop downranking what everyone can see ¯\(ツ)/¯²

please¹ read the 🧵. I already answered this question, twice.

You can also pick up a book. But thank you for disengaging.🙇¹

Never. That shaming culture is alive and well in 21c, and Monogamous domineers exist, still.

Ah.¹ Learn some anarchism.

Then keep on educating yourself on dominant state monogamist enforcement oppressions, and leave my sexually liberated polycule alone. Mcpisce²?

TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today: I don’t really know if I agree that sexually inclusive relationships are any less fickle then we wouldn't have never seen this picture, at all. In a restaurant, with a branded theme.

You have to admit the theatrics are unnecessary, no?¹

I personally think it’s perfectly fine if two consenting adults want to agree to enter a monogamist relationship.

Then don't use law, or theatrics to reinforce this🙃

To me I would more attribute it to people being messy bitches about their personal business. Yet bigamy is illegal, in all US states.

Meaning that the majority do force monogamy on others against others. So it is a public business. A public industry. Making billion of dollars, every year.

You are really making me feel my age.

Then please¹ educate yourself some more, because I am older than you, and I can still keep up😊¹

¹Cordiality

[–] AzuranAurora@piefed.ca 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I fail to see how a lightning emoji is supposed to signal jovial or cordial intent. Most of the time people use emojis to be obnoxious.

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -3 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] AzuranAurora@piefed.ca 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

"Widely used" is a hell of a stretch. I've never seen it used that way in my entire time using the internet. I don't take these emoji websites seriously.

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don’t take these emoji websites seriously.

Is a lighting emoji not a signifier of jovial² intent?

then why read them as obnoxious when you don't see them on LINE, WhatsApp, Telegram, Asian twitter, etc. used contextually as defined??

[–] AzuranAurora@piefed.ca 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Because when I do see emojis used, it's usually something like

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 and similar emoji spam, or somebody using them for trolling, especially the 😂 . They're very rarely used for the definitions emoji websites say they're used for.

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

emojipedia also has a section for emoji spam. They were being truthful if you visit more than the English🌐
in🌏, proper usage of “⚡” is done, as I did in 196, where I am comfortable sharing my Asian side.

[–] AzuranAurora@piefed.ca 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Why would I browse a website in languages other than my own, especially an emoji website?

[–] alapakala@quokk.au 0 points 1 month ago

Great, question. 196 as a community enjoys emojis, so ig don't worry about it

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 month ago

Lmaoo okay you have to be trolling

[–] Glytch@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

YDI, you came in hot attacking anyone who didn't agree with your very narrow views on monogamy and polyamory. At no point were you cordial or jovial, just angry. And now you continue to dig your hole here by whinging about deleted comments? Touch grass and move on.

[–] AzuranAurora@piefed.ca 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I read the whole thread before your comments were removed, and you weren't being as cordial and jovial as you think you were. The discussion came across as rather heated and didn't seem like anyone involved was really listening to what the others were saying. I don't believe the moderator was being a PTB by removing your comments, just doing their job in this case. If they had outright banned you instead, then that'd be a bit much as you weren't being outright hostile or saying anything warranting a ban.

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

you weren't being as cordial and jovial as you think you were.

I think they know exactly what they're doing lol:
https://quokk.au/comment/5717260

[–] AzuranAurora@piefed.ca 5 points 1 month ago

Yeahhhhhhhh I have to agree there.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You're leaving out all your comments that got removed.

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That's quite literally what I am requesting the moderator restore…

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Anyone can see what you wrote in the modlog.

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -1 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Wren@lemmy.today 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] alapakala@quokk.au -1 points 1 month ago (2 children)
[–] Johnny_Arson@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

Based on all the other bullshit you spouted in the meme thread about defederating from "tankie" instances. Just an annoying troll and the ban was probably totally justified.

You have terminal westerner brainworms and smugness.

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] alapakala@quokk.au -1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)
[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I just used a script to read the thread with your comments repopulated to get the full context and, even though I 100% agree with you, your tone consistently comes off as hella patronizing, which does not read like a jovial conversation

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

it should be cordial. I do like to teach, so I may have had a teaching tone, but not patronizing. I did request not to be patronized about in intimacy, and bunch of other people did.

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I feel like you'd benefit to work on your teaching tone tbh; I think folks got defensive in response to it. It is an especially touchy topic, teaching people that they're participating in oppression

[–] alapakala@quokk.au 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Sure, we can open a !anarchism@lemmy.dbzer0.com discussion in !memes@lemmy.world or heck, I can make it a !mop@quokk.au l8r. But I was patronized when I asked not to be. Unsure if it was here or another comment.

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Hm... It seems like we have different interpretations of "patronizing"?

This line sounds patronizing to me:

Remember, the sweetest revenge against your haters is to live your best life.

but what you called out as patronizing is this:

1000015499

I have to agree with this bit in response:

I don’t even know what you are trying to claim?

[–] alapakala@quokk.au -1 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Remember, the sweetest revenge against your haters is to live your best life.

I didn't make that line! @Glytch@lemmy.world did, and that comment is still up!

what you called out as patronizing is this

Show the full part about dishonesty! That comment doesn't even show up on the logs!

I don’t even know what you are trying to claim?

I already explained myself to @TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today cordially. Did you not read the rest of that on purpose‽

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I didn't make that line! @Glytch@lemmy.world did, and that comment is still up!

I know, and I'm saying that that part of what was said to you did sound patronizing, but you didn't call that out and instead called out something non-patronizing

Show the full part about dishonesty! That comment doesn't even show up on the logs!

That part is irrelevant to whether you were being patronized

I already explained myself to @TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today cordially. Did you not read the rest of that on purpose‽

I did read it, and I understood it but, like someone else said, you seemed to be having your own 1-sided conversation at them. You quoted them but weren't actually responding to what you were quoting

did read it, and I understood it but, like someone else said, you seemed to be having your own 1-sided conversation at them. You quoted them but weren't actually responding to what you were quoting

I wouldn't say they were attempting to be super rude or anything, maybe a bit sassy if anything, but I didn't mind. My biggest issue was that there were a lot of miscommunications and lack of clarity, I think mainly due to their responses being a bit logically scattered. They tended to make leaps in conclusions, causing them to make rebuttals against claims I never made.

[–] Glytch@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Don't pull me back into this. You earned what you got. YDI