As a 40+ yr old, I gave up decades ago
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Eventually it becomes other people’s problem, not yours.
huhh I don't get it, I'm thinking of the context if i speak with people who speak to me with respect, i will really make effort to tell what i think, I believe this post can be interpreted also as a struggle for people who have dozens of thoughts and a brainstorm but they're in a social situation which requires fluidity..?
Well said
When i get excited or angry my ability to articulate goes out the window. It usually comes out as mumbled gibberish
I think that's cute (:
If i cant smoke and swear then I’m fucked. I wont be able to properly defend myself
And now try the same, Foreign Language Enhanced! 😂
I'll never forget talking to a guy that was literally the only native speaker of his language for like six months.
I could tell he really needed a break, but couldn't help.
I bet he talked someone's ear off though whoever they happen to be.
This is the most relatable thing I’ve seen all week.
I can relate to this. Sometimes I feel like my vocabulary is the thing lacking, I don't know if that's actually what it is but I've started to read books again because of it. Recently picked up Count of Monte Cristo and am liking it so far. Not sure if it's helping, but it's good.
I feel that. I've also started blurting out similar sounding words to what I'm trying to say and it's weird. Getting old sucks (and I was always pretty bad at talking)
This is a very accurate illustration of ADHD.
I should get checked because I probably wouldn’t be such an interjection when I run ideas contrary to the current conversation.
"No you!" -me
I don't get it. People can't speak?
I understand not wanting to speak, but not the lack of ability.
Of course I can speak. I spend fifteen minutes practicing my order in my head first, of course. And then yeah, I probably get the words on the wrong order. But they're all mostly there.
This morning I spent like 1 minute in a meeting wanting to say something scrolling in my head but the mouth was not cooperating at all with the words, so after a bunch of time and noises I just say "fuck the words" which actually worked and only then after pausing and waiting for the mouth to sync properly was I finally able to speak.
Fifteen? Is that it?
When people talk about inner monologues, mine is just literally scripting. The worst is after social interaction, where my brain has to ruminate over it and script for the next time. Stupid brain won't stop, and all the way home, sometimes even sounds and gestures leak out as my brain frantically scripts and I hate it. Like, just shut up, brain!
I'm autistic,and yes, I sometimes can't speak.
I try to say something, but instead it comes out in a way no one can understand.
For whatever it's worth, whenever I am finally able to understand thoughts that come from a way different context than my own it is super satisfying. It's like finding a hidden world that was underneath my feet all along.
"I have one main point I want to convey with five points of supporting evidence but actually each of those require arguing and some qualifications and point 4 is an essential part of the argument for point 1 and all of this reminds me of a funny conversation in a tv show that to me does a better job of explaining it but if you haven't seen it what's really important about that show is that it came out at the height of the War on Terror and -"
You probably stopped listening around the word "supporting" and I don't blame you for that
The problem is thoughts are a web, and speech is a line. Someday I hope we will be able to brain dump through our neural implants.
Oh no... Imagine tiktok content in those times
Aphasia sucks. There's a dam between my brain and my mouth and sometimes the right word gets caught on it so I have to start throwing out cinnamon rolls
You're trying to say you truly don't understand the concept of getting tongue tied?...
It's common in neurodivergent people.
It was a big problem for me for a long time. The words are in my head, but my mouth couldn't articulate the sounds and sometimes it was literal nonsense sounds that came out my mouth.
Weirdly enough, it turned out that I had a sensitivity to eggs that was making that (and my mental health) a lot worse.*
Even now, ten years on, when I can articulate a long sentence without tripping over my words, it still feels like a little victory.
This is a completely different thing from mutism btw.
*Unfortunately, the price of lower anxiety and better speech was losing a lot of my neutral/useful autistic traits as well.
I also struggle to relate to this! My husband says he feels like this a lot, and I'm like, how? you've been speaking one language for 3 + decades, that's plenty of practice lol! But that's okay. He'll get there eventually.
Sometimes there is a disconnect between what your brain wants to do and what it does. Just requires a little understanding. It's not like your husband can explain it either. The brain is complicated.
Another example: sleep paralysis. It's very weird but years ago I experienced it. I woke up but couldn't move. Very scary and strange, but not that uncommon.
He sure can't, lol!
You sound very understanding and emotionally intelligent /s
I'm not really sure what your problem with me is, but I bet I've been married longer than you have, and it's 100% okay to frustrate each other sometimes and then laugh about it later. It's also okay to admit you can't perfectly relate to something your partner experiences, and it is going to happen unless you somehow managed to marry yourself.
My best guess is that I remind you of someone who wasn't patient with you in a really devastating way, causing all of this projection, and I'm genuinely sorry that happened to you. But you don't actually know me, and you couldn't possibly know what I'm like based on a couple of silly comments online.
What happens is when people get told they're weird because of the way they are, it hurts. Yeah that's happened to me many times and it sucks a lot. Fortunately my current partner is pretty understanding.
Like I said sorry that happened to you and I hope you'll have a lot of success in your relationship
You come off as not understanding that you've hurt your husband's feelings and I can relate to that "why can't you just [insert thing I can't help]?". In this thread lots of people are relating to that kinda thing so it was kinda jarring to see the opposite.
My husband's feelings aren't hurt, though? The person I replied to also didn't really relate to the meme so it's not just me. I seem to be the only person catching shit for it, though 😐
not understanding
Yeah sometimes people with issues get hurt and it goes unnoticed. It's a struggle for some of us. Anyhow, sorry you think I'm singling you out. I have no reason to do that other than what felt like a very submissive tone. When I tried to explain what it might be like for others, your response felt dismissive again /shrug
I think we were talking about two different things. The person I replied to said they didn't get the meme, and I said I also struggle to relate to this particular difficulty and shared a funny, silly anecdote about the cute little misunderstandings that arise between someone I love and myself here and there as a result.
Your own experience involves a lot more hurt around the topic, which I didn't really know about based on your first reply. I didn't even know you were referencing your own difficulties communicating. You also said,
It’s not like your husband can explain it either And I was like, no, he sure can't, that's the point, he is bad with words, lol! Just continuing to be silly and then you started accusing me of hurting his feelings, when you don't know either of us which kinda came out of nowhere from my perspective.
I'm sorry I made assumptions and I'm definitely projecting on some level, but at the same time it may be worth considering that someone who freezes up may have some unaired feelings. I say that as someone who occasionally does have that happen (both parts). You're right I certainly may be totally off base though and I may have read some tone that wasn't there, which text is notorious for being vulnerable to. Either way I ought to try to make less assumptions and you can take or leave what I'm saying here (and I really don't mean that in a shitty way, just admitting I may be completely wrong)
It's okay, it happens. I appreciate that you feel protective over people, that's not such a bad thing!
If what you want to say is a 20mm cannon round then maybe dial it back a bit unless you're trying to blow up family dinner
I read / heard somewhere, that if you can't really put somethings into words, you don't understand it as well as you think you do.
It's bullshit. Some people have genuine issues speaking their thoughts from a variety of disabilities, and other people are just plain bad at explaining things
Eh, not being able to explain it elegantly on the spot in front of people understandable.
But if can't come up with a simple explanation even when you're by yourself with all the time in the world, then yeah you probably don't understand it well enough.
It's for people that say "it's a complex topic. You wouldn't be able to understand it". Bitch, the human brain is amazing. People can understand anything they want to. You're just too lazy to help them.
Talking is such an overwhelming method of communication though, and it requires constant and very precise, physical and mental coordination to be effective.
I sound stupid and crazy when I try to talk, all the sensory input fries my brain and makes me panic.
Also, what I want to say compared to my patience to type it on a touch screen with my thumbs.
I'm fairly certain I can rig up a makeshift barrel and a good enough firepin. Go for the old fuck it's what's the worst that can happen....
SA be like:
Serene articulation 😩