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Rigid behavioral patterns like having to work 40 hours a week, shop, feed yourself, clean, do laundry, go to the doctor, pay bills and so on, over and over and over again for the rest of your life?
Bro you can't just list basically every human ADL and say it's a "rigid behavior". That's basically like saying "Oh, you claim to like variety? Then how come you spend every day ALIVE?" thats idiotic, arrogant, cynical
Well excuse the fuck out of me for not having enough free time to actually enjoy my life.
you cant compartmentalize things like that. there aren't "chores" vs "fun" and everything you have to do is pain and the fun is just the chemical rushes. you gotta learn to enjoy the little things, enjoy yourself while you're doing your job or your chores, have some gratitude that you still live and breathe. you probably are gonna wanna get screened for depression
I can't pick and choose what I do or do not enjoy doing. There's nothing engaging about cleaning or doing laundry. When I first got out on my own there was at least some challenge in figuring out the most efficient way of doing things but that's all been mastered long ago. My job mostly consists of going down a list of projects and emailing people to find out why they haven't finished things that should have been done weeks ago. Then when I leave I get to sit in traffic for half an hour. Maybe stop at one of the over crowded, understaffed grocery stores to overpay for food. Get home, work out for an hour, shower, cook food, clean up, do whatever else needs doing. There's nothing to enjoy about any of that. It's all tedious as hell. I might have an hour or two after everything else is done to unwind before bed and even then I usually have too much on my mind to really get immersed in anything.
I get how you can feel like that is a fault of the world, but don't you see any agency in changing any of this? Or you just leave it at "Well I don't like it so that's that"
Of the things I listed:
Job - I'm always on the look out for better options, so far nothing has come up that pays more and I'm already not making enough to do the things I want to do.
Cleaning - Already said I have gamified it to get some enjoyment out of it in the past but I don't see any more room for improvement there.
Traffic - I can leave work early to beat rush hour sometimes but that that only helps a little.
Grocery store - I've tried going to different ones but it's more or less the same issues at all of the ones I've tried. I've figured out which days are usually less busy but it still sucks.
Working out - I vary my routines to not get too boring but it's still more or less the same stuff over and over again. It was fun when I was making gains but now my physique is where I want it to be so it's just maintenance.
Cooking- can try making new stuff but that just takes longer and comes with the risk of waste if I mess it up or don't like it. Also sharing a kitchen with housemates that tend to pack all the freezer space with garbage they buy from costco.
Free time - I guess I could stay up later but then I'll feel like shit all day the next day.
I'm open to suggestions but you're acting like I don't think about this shit constantly.
Yeah it does sound like you think about this a lot and you're really trying to make it work. I guess thinking about it isn't gonna be the solution.
It sounds like your dopamine systems are all screwed up - and make no mistake, most of ours are nowdays. When we spend our days getting flooded with quick hits of pleasure, scrolling memes here, gaming after school, masturbating whenever we want, etc., it's really hard to feel pleasure from the little things in life. But that's the point of dopamine: it's supposed to tell us when we're doing the right thing and make us feel rewarded just from having our life in order. But the pleasure of caring for your home is not going to be as intense as the rush you get from leveling up or opening loot boxes or whatever.
That's why we always see in these kinds of threads comments like "You wanna take away the ONE THING i enjoy in this miserable existence!" well shit sometimes that one thing you enjoy is making it so you can't enjoy anything else.
Then the question becomes How do I recalibrate my dopamine systems? And that's a complicated answer - if that's even the issue here! But yeah, more thinking (or words from me) probably wont do the trick.