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submitted 5 months ago by milistanaccount09@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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N.B. misandry is not real because men are not systemically oppressed (uninternalize your reddit MRA today: men suffer some drawbacks under the patriarchy but ultimately still maintain it due to the large amount of privileges they receive under it!)

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[-] itappearsthat@hexbear.net 2 points 5 months ago

Maybe. There are a lot of times where I've caused hurt feelings for reasons that I later came to understand and internalize. I would not put the blame for those feelings on the people I hurt. It's easy to talk about accommodations for low social skills in the abstract but when you get to what it actually entails it puts a lot of burden on others to not take offense to objectively bad behavior.

[-] EelBolshevikism@hexbear.net 2 points 5 months ago

There are a lot of times where I've caused hurt feelings for reasons that I later came to understand and internalize. I would not put the blame for those feelings on the people I hurt.

If it was because you "misunderstood" a weird neurotypical implication they made that they weren't explicit about, actually you should blame them for it.

objectively bad behavior.

"Misunderstanding" someone's weird "implications" and invisible social cues is not "objectively bad behavior". In fact, it's closer to objectively GOOD behavior because way too many people rely on that shit instead of actually directly communicating which people like us force them to do.