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Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was
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this post was submitted on 13 May 2024
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So, You've experienced a similar trauma to what a good chunk of women experience, and the remaining women live in fear of experiencing, and instead of being sympathetic and understanding.. you are angry at them for trying to protect themselves from similar fates.
Yeah, you sound like a real upstanding guy.
he's contributing to the conversation in a positive manner.
rather than being a butthurt bigot who whines about downvotes.
Close, but no cigar. I'm empathetic to those women, and in fact I agree we can all be more vigilant to protect ourselves from harm of any kind. What I do not agree with is the unnecessary inflammatory gendered language which actually does more harm than good and alienates male victims while praising woman perpetrators, and with people like you who minimize my experiences and viewpoints because you'd rather dismiss them than treat me like a human. I do not agree that because some men are abusive we should treat them all as if they probably are, just as my experiences with two of the many women I have met are expected not to taint my view of their entire gender.
I'm not angry at women, I'm angry at individuals like yourself, who are shitty people masquerading as a moral authority, fucking do better.
I can tell you haven't dealt with drama before. If I'm wrong, please forgive me. Everyone has to deal with it differently, please be a little more patient. Maybe they could have worded it more carefully, but I don't think they deserved this escalation.
This is a problem we need to deal with in society. You acknowledged that yourself. This almost comes across as victim blaming, but definitely comes across as straw manning.
ah yes, gatekeeping rape.
wouldn't be the fucking internet if this shit didn't happen huh?