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This analogy doesn't really work for me, because I don't really see any benefits at all to having children.
With exercise, it's pretty obvious why you'd do it, but with kids? Honestly, I just see downsides that lead to more downsides.
Had a coworker tell me without kids I'd be lonely when I grow old. So I suppose that's a "benefit" to some. If we completely ignore how selfish that is, and how ridiculous it is, thinking your children are going to visit you anything close to often enough to keep you from being lonely,
Exactly.
I reemember some dude I knew who said that his parents told him that 'you should have kids because nobody visits you other than them if you dont have them' ...
Well they wrre abusive towards him and his numerous other sisters growing up so guess who never visits their parents ... 🤭😏 They had ALL THESE kids ...and none of them visits them regularly 🤭
Yeah idk that may be the crux of it for me, i just dont get "lonely." Like i dont remember ever feeling like ive been alone for too long, i just like being alone!
Raising brand new human the way you want, he is your number one fan. Reliving all those emotions with him. Becoming more selfless and more empathetic. I'd say life with kid is good in its own way. It is like watching youtube of travel bloggers vs visiting those places yourself. You might like it or not
I guess if the brand new human wants to be like you. What if they don't? It's a big burden to put on a child, to live up to those expectations, wether or not you tell it so. Will you be disappointed in the child if it doesn't? Will you love it the same if it doesn't?
Edit. And I find it kinda offensive that you assume making a child would make me more selfless and empathetic.
I just don't care about those ifs. I am pretty chill and spend quality time with kid thats it. Being disappointed is putting high expectations and thats about anything in life, it drains all your energy so fuck that.
Well my childhood was awful so that may be why i dont see any of that as good lmao
Our parents regularly told us they had us so we could keep their house clean. When I was an adult and saw the scale of the messes my niblings left, I had to ask my parents if they had just been telling themselves a very sardonic inside joke.
They were not.