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I (23M, American) feel completely paralyzed from a career perspective because I have no idea what the hell to do. If I choose the wrong degree program, I have to pay back all the debt with nothing to show for it. Even if I get a job, there's no telling how long that will last. Everything keeps changing so fucking fast and it seems like any field I could go to college for could cease to be viable by the time I finish. On top of that, I have chronic health conditions to worry about that limit what I can even do.

(Edit: Basically I have POTS and a neck injury, so it’s hard to do physical labor and I suffer from dizziness, brain fog, and fatigue from being up for an hour or so. I don’t know my exact limits yet, since the severity of my condition varies by day and there appear to be ways to partially recover from the fatigue without having to lay down.)

I think stuff like urban planning and designing walkable environments would be cool, but I'm not sure if that's a viable path in 2027 and beyond. I also used to be interested in programming, but ever since AI and mass layoffs hit the scene, I've become disillusioned and stopped pursuing that path.

I used to feel like the world was stable and I could pick a career based on my passion and be fine. But ever since 2020, everything has felt increasingly more uncertain. The world seems to be losing its collective shit and that doesn't appear to be changing anytime soon.

Is staking your sense of stability on your career the wrong way to think about this? Should I be trying to find close friends or some kind of supportive community that could act as a safety net? Or is everyone too hyperindividualist to look out for each other?

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[–] rawn@feddit.org 12 points 2 days ago

I think there's value in asking not what interests you but rather how you want to work, particularly in your case. The ugly thing is that you don't just find that knowledge on the kitchen counter one morning, you usually find out by working a job.

Disclaimer: I live in Europe, I am middle aged and I've worked in more than one profession and more than one country.

I think ideally you do some entry level thing, maybe without study if you're worried about the expense, and you see what "how" suits you. Then you decide if you want to study or not but the aim is to expand the "how".

Design or Architecture: This usually requires you or someone else to sell your skillset rather well. That someone else is difficult to find, so the question is: Are you cool with doing that? Are you happy to tell people just why your design is the best they can get? There's niche jobs in this area as with many others, but in my experience not quite as many.

Tech: IT has for a long time served as a great market for people who did some sort of STEM-stuff. As a result of the size and growth of the industry in the past 50 years, people were much needed and earned rather well. This also means that cutting costs by reducing employee count looks rather attractive right now. But it's also starting to backfire in many ways, be it the fact that AI runs wild in some cases or that in others companies just didn't really know how much AI would cost them. There's a lot of examples, but it'll still take time to sink in that AI can do some stuff, but it can't do all the stuff all the time, unless you're fine losing control of your code. There's also not a whole lot of regulation yet and that will absolutely change.

So here's what I think you should ask yourself:

  • Am I extroverted and happy to spend time with strangers? (This pays into sales jobs and promoter-stuff.)
  • Am I someone who is good at disappointing people? (Regulation needs its own people, they often come highly specialised and their job is to tell others what's safe to do, thus creating disappointment. Management is also a lot of eggshells to walk on, but it's not always creating disappointment.)
  • Am I passionate enough about a field to deeply invest and let it bleed into my life? (Sometimes there is something you absolutely must do and when you know that, it's okay to embrace it.)
  • How well do I work within a team? (Your first team may not be the best team ever, but if you can fit in without hating the situation, cut the others some slack and exist within that system, that's a skill.)
  • Am I someone who gets into that hyper focus kinda state where I just work alone for hours and that makes me happy? (This is going the science route, even IT relies on team work to a certain degree, but the more trial and error and writing a job involves, the more you need to be motivated on your own.)
  • Am I a born service provider? (Some of us are not front row extroverts but really just want to make life better for everyone. In that case look at support or some job that cooperates with a team but does their own thing later on. We're looking at assistant roles, documentation - where AI didn't ruin it, UX ... and as I said: Support.)
  • Do I need pressure or stress to get things done? (Some of us do. That's okay, but let's then pick something that gives us deadlines or the right amount of pressure to actually perform. Or - if you're on the other end of this - a place with long-term planning and very clear expectations, so you can settle into a routine.)

Many of these things are completely independent of the area you later work in, if you do the finances for a charity or work on organising funds raisers for start ups, if you end up as a scrum master with a dev team or an auditor for building sites, they are all different combinations of those things above. If you find the right combination, you find what you can do well and what will make you somewhat happy.

My personal advice: Pick something that comes to you with ease (meaning it's something you don't look at the clock about), life will find a way to make it challenging anyway.

Good luck!