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[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 weeks ago

people who got yelled and forced as kids grow up into useless adults.

I got yelled at and forced as a kid, and much worse, and I grew up to be probably the single most useful adult I know. I didn't resent cooking because I was forced to cook, I don't resent taking out the trash because I was forced to, or washing the dishes, or yardwork, or laundry.

These are things that need to get done, and without someone to do them for me I need to do them. If you incentivize learning those habits with praise and an ice cream cone, you just teach the child that if they don't feel like ice cream they don't have to do anything.

Seems to me that you're wildly exaggerating a fairly normal situation, and making unfounded generalizations about parenting and child psychology. Yes positive reinforcement is generally good, and no I wouldn't recommend my draconian upbringing, but the world is not black and white. There is a time for positive reinforcement, and a time for negative reinforcement.