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Nah, this is a shitty thing to say to someone whose mental health is obviously in a dark place. Telling someone who is struggling a lot in part because they are internalizing guilt that they are essentially being selfish because of having dark thoughts, is an asinine approach to mental health, that will just reinforce the guilt they already feel.
Depression and self-harm are not problems confined to westerners and doubling down on insinuating somebody is particularly bad for being a westerner who is already internalizing that as a horrible thing, is the opposite of helping.
Not everything is about hard work, ffs. Take a step back and reframe this as if you are talking to someone who is bedridden and then maybe it will make more sense what's wrong with it. You're completely erasing the potentially disabling mental health conditions they are operating under and talking as if a "tough love" speech will fix them.