Yeah, but it's most likely that he's looking to get laid by women, the word choices and way the text is written point to the writer being hetero, with the men he was talking to being for companionship.

But, yeah, I'm assuming good intentions overall. Looking to get laid isn't inherently bad, for one thing. Nor is trying to find someone to date. Creeping implies they're being crude about it, or otherwise behaving in an inappropriate manner. Well, that's the main usage of the slang term. So, my base assumption is that someone writing something like that is no worse than any idiot teenager or young adult with poor social skills.

When that's the case, there's no reason to be rude or dismissive to them, you can still be nice about it. Hell, even if they are creeping, you stand a better chance of some minor degree of giving them an example of how they should behave by being nice.

As much as I hate people, and gods do I, if we fall into the trap of defaulting to believing the worst and acting on it with everyone, shit breaks down. It may seem like an oxymoron, but compassionate misanthropy is possible. You can believe people are assholes in general, and still act based on the chance that they're not, simply by assuming that malice isn't involved.

See, you're stuck in a bad place.

You not only assume that the person in the text is a bad person, but that I'm also thinking the way you seem to think is the default.

Look, go back and reread what I wrote while assuming the best. That I'm looking at the text with compassion and the goal of not fucking with someone.

Then go back to the original text and look at it without the assumption that the person is acting badly. Look at it with compassion, with the assumption that they don't know how to interact with people yet. Or look at it from the perspective I wrote from, that if someone approaches your group in a public place, that maybe being nice, being gentle is the way we're supposed to start out.

You do realize I didn't mention anything about women needing to be polite to someone hitting on them, right? I mean, the very first line of the comment you're responding to says "legit though, why be rude to a fellow for rolling up politely as a dude". That sets the framework for the perspective of the comment. It's a dude talking about how to treat other dudes that approach your group in public.

We're talking about two separate things, or that's my base assumption in this response. That you aren't just ranting about something random and didn't read the comment, but that you just missed the first line, or that I didn't phrase it well enough, and need to explain it better.

See what I mean though? You didn't even come at this neutrally, you started off with putting words in my mouth (or on my screen, I guess), and I'm still here trying to assume the best instead of just blocking you because you're off on your own tangent that doesn't respond to what I actually wrote. I'm being direct, but I'm still (so far) being nice about it instead of just blasting you or otherwise forgetting that you're human and can make mistakes without intending to be a jerk.