Then... Erm... Leave?
this post was submitted on 03 Dec 2025
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What do we see? A woman who seems to fall apart when she’s in a relationship, even though she’s fine on her own. Many of us want a partner, but living in a relationship is different. Suddenly there’s envy, unpleasant childhood memories, and the influence of toxic relationships we saw in our parents. Because of that, we react in ways we don’t actually want to.
So just leave or go to therapy? Since the comic is very ambiguous, it could signify three things:
- Her boyfriend is being toxic to her.
- She is being toxic to her boyfriend.
- Both are being toxic to each other.
In any case, seek help if your relationship matters, or leave it because it’s toxic, wether intentionally or not.
We should strive to be well-adapted adults, this kind of behavior is immature and unhealthy, even if the toxicity comes from trauma and not malice.
It’s probably a lot harder than that to extract so easily what the problem is
Likely a person who is like this in a relationship but fine on their own:if it were just one relationship perhaps it’s their first one. maybe it’s just the relationship with that person. Or maybe that person.
Maybe they experienced what most if not all people have experienced at least once in their life: youth and stupidity and working it out on their first relationship. that’s not enough to call it a pattern
Maybe it’s that other person bringing out the worst. In which case this person experienced a toxic person. Live and learn.
I notice the first panel says ‘with boyfriend’ …could be the artist is expressing their grief that there is a growing trend of dudes who are imposing abusive beliefs from the Joe rogan influence acting like man babies. So this could even be an epidemic in which I probably wouldnt gaslight the artist about.
Maybe the above person is right, maybe it’s the type of relationship itself brings on trauma However I’d posture that if it were this, it needs to emerge as a pattern first. Does it happen in all types of relationships or only intimate ones?
Or maybe this type of relationship is not what op deep down ever desired and wanted a different one. The issue isn’t even born out of trauma but more that the Op’s needs aren’t traditional when it comes to intimacy. Which is important to explore. In which case yeah, maybe therapy would be good to find out what Op’s needs are when it comes to relationships. Although if it were this I’d expect more pulling away and less yelling.
And maybe the person is the problem. If it were; I’ve noticed people who are like this in relationships struggle a whole lot even alone and it emerges as a pattern in several types of relationships around them. Not just intimate. They aren’t exactly living triggerless in solitude. It’s the second panel in each one and the lack of other relationship patterns that makes me hesitate to lean into this one.
That's what therapy is for.
Any day fucked up by thinking.
And die alone? No. LOL
I'd take dying alone over a frustrating, pointless relationship.
You know, one of you is going to die alone. Being in a shitty relationship is worse than being alone from my own experience.
In the words of my late mom; it's better to be alone than to be alone together with someone.
Someone needs to find a very very calming and relaxing boyfriend she can feel 100% safe with.
Going by her galleries🔞 she just has anxiety, and is expressing that her boyfriend is an emotional compressor for supressed emotions
I can see why folks🧵 misinterpreted her emotional release comic.
Same, but it's the left side for both.
Downvoters being a little toxic here, like the artist's relationship.
Looks like the boomer equivelant of "wife bad" to me. Downvote deserved in my opinion.
You're reading stuff in. This is a criticism of the artist/subject. There is nothing in this that says, "because of men."
So the title of the post "aint nothing but a headache" is targeted at the artist? Either my small brain fails to comprehend your explenation or my english is failing me. Possibly both
Presumably the poster is expressing that they see an aspect of themselves in the character in the comic. Soon I'm going to start charging you for these insights.
Backstreet Boys, Tell me why. Just thought it matches.
But that's neither the name of the song or a lyric from the song.
Seems they forgot it’s from I want it that way. This person may be some kind of BSB poseur 🧐 an entirely more serious matter
Thanks for clarifying, and now
Or the artist was secretly spying on a past relationship of mine chronicling the misadventures of my ex.
But yeah. The down votes aren’t warranted.
Miss Pad Thai here better off just writing "Screw my ex-boyfriend" on the comic.
The left panel is my wife for about 4 days a month. The right panel is my psyche while my body tries to soothe her
No boyfriend, no problem