I once saw an episode of a TV show on exactly this topic. The way they simulated social pain was by telling three people they were playing a game of catch together on a computer but, in reality, each person had its own game with 2 NPCs that would eventually just leave the player out and start throwing the ball among themselves and I just think that's so mean but kinda funny.
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It seems like a weird idea at first, but people self-medicate with all sorts of substances to ease their mental pain. Thinking of it that way, it makes sense that a pain reliever like acetaminophen might help.
This is pretty funny given the recent political assertions that Tylenol causes autism, because rejection sensitive dysphoria is a symptom of autism/adhd
Edit: that N.B. is pretentious as fuck. Don't take an incredibly tiny study with very little scientific traction as fact. Presenting it as fact demonstrates how little the OP understands about research
Wait
I'm abnormally sensitive about rejection because of my AuADHD?
What the flipping fuck. Fuck this shit. What drugs just turn off my brain so I can just be a blob of flesh until I die of old age since they don't like how often I complain about existence being so goddamn difficult.
Sheesh, tell me about it, just about every quirk of my personality turns out to be an ADHD symptom in the end.
I hear you, I'm ND too. Reading about things like RSD being common in people like us has at least helped me be easier on myself.
Existence is goddamn difficult and I wish I had an answer, because turning my brain off sounds wonderful. Alcohol can do that, but it comes with some awful consequences. I've also abused quetiapine, but eventually that fucked me up too. Weed does not play nice with my brain
Man quetiapine just made me panic and feel like I couldn't breathe. Actually there are a shit ton of "sedating" medications that do that to me thinking about it.
Except of course benzos, but thanks to those being cross tolerant with z drugs, they really gotta pump those in me to work at all.
I've had a little success with clonodine.
I remember abilify completely shut off my ability to think. Still had emotions, just no reasoning.
People talk about Dating being this thing that's easy to do. Yeah. Maybe if you had any choice over what was and wasn't difficult.
Im thinking about walking into therapy tomorrow and just asking "do I have to work if I'm just gonna be miserable anyway?"
I'm on clonidine for ADHD. I can actually stop myself from speaking out of turn now, so maybe it has been a little sedating xD
Dating is kind of a nightmare. I know people say anyone can find a partner, but that doesn't take into account things like sensory issues or hard boundaries around other things that keep us sane. I told myself a few years ago that I didn't want to date while I'm university, but honestly it's been so nice not forcing myself to fit into other people's boxes that I might just stay single even after I earn my doctorate
I'm also with you on refusing to participate in a misery machine for a living. I hope you can hash out some kind of misery escape plan with your therapist tomorrow
I'm on a max dosage of clonidine for HBP. I didn't know it had other effects. It does explain a bit. Thanks for the info.
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So, not only sticks and stones; now words can hurt you!
Yes, it is the essence. Words can hurt. That's what we have been telling people.
Always have been (able to.)
This appears to be a tiny undergrad study on something neat. I think y'all are reading too much into this. Also, there appears to be no link between acetaminophen and autism but that has absolutely nothing to do with this study.
wait so i can take actual physical pain meds to feel better?
It you have read the article, only for peopl with high level of forgiveness.
Im still wondering what the helll does it mean to have "a high level of forgiveness"
fuck
You can learn to be a better person. We all can.
no way i'm being a "better person" for people that will fuck me over as soon as i let them again.
they be a better person for a change.
That's how it feels, sure. But you can't properly control what other people do. You can control what you do.
In situations where you've been fucked over, you can't force the other person to feel guilty, try to make amends or seek your forgiveness. That would be great, but you can't make it happen. All you can do is move on from it, which means forgiving them. If you hold a grudge, that's mental effort, time and energy that you're continuing to spend on them, because of the shit that they did. If you can forgive them, not only does it make you a better person, it also removes the control they have over you. It's not exactly satisfying, but ask yourself what would be. The past isn't going to change, and that asshole isn't going to suddenly grow a conscience. Don't let their actions ruin who you are by getting consumed with bitter feelings!
I know this is kind of general, and some things are a lot harder to forgive than others, but I find it's amazing how much easier it gets as time passes. I've been treated horrendously over the years and I refuse to hold a grudge. I've shaken hands and made jokes with past abusers, which is probably the biggest "fuck you" I could give them. They know what they did; I'm still happy and functioning. They have no power over me, and I certainly will never let them close enough to do that again.
I know this is all a bit unsolicited on my part here, but I just recognised what you wrote as something I've felt too, and I would've liked someone to tell me this when I was. I'm not trying to preach.
it's fine, i enjoy relating to people's experiences. i don't let this kind of stuff consume me anymore though, i treat people how they act towards me. that sometimes includes not being nice.
i draw lines on what i don't want, and that makes me look unforgiving, but anyone can learn to be better.
in any case i appreciate your thoughtful response.
I have feel like that pretty often when sad, it does genuinely hurt
So it makes sense to me
You get deep enough into any emotion and it will start overlapping physical neurotransmitter pathways.
Just ask anyone thats done research into schizoid personality disorder.
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Tylenol has never worked for physical pain in my experience, but can't say I ever tried it for emotional pain. Glad to hear it does something.
You telling me I can painkiller my way away from the massive amounts of cringe I generate? Say less, lemme go buy a costco-sized barrel of excedrin
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