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My gf gaining weight is stressing her out
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Fat-shaming is a fucking stupid and evil thing to do in the first place, but it actually also drives overweight people to stay that way.
Some pop science mind-fuckery I read some years ago talked about how feeling bad about not losing weight.. tends to make you gain weight. Feeling guilt and upset demonstrably causes people to eat more and actually break healthy new habits in general, because biology. My weird brain internalises this as "don't worry about feeling guilty/shamed about stuff, because feeling that way demonstrably doesn't help", but I appreciate that may not work for others.
Chasing change or health improvements is great if it feels positive and doable, but absolutely no shame to be felt about not doing it, especially in what sounds like an already stressful enough time. I hope she can come to a comfortable place and ignore the shitty comments of others. Best of love and self-love to you and yours![emoji meow-hug meow-hug](https://www.hexbear.net/pictrs/image/28d86083-caf1-46d9-b565-569425bb5451.png)