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submitted 10 months ago by vestmoria@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

She is a good coworker, meaning she knows her duties and has ample experience.

She is also a gossip and a person that will rant when somebody doesn't greet her the way she believes she deserves to be greeted, or about how a coworker or manager wasn't friendly to her. It's both what she says and how she says it, like she was hurt.

I still don't know if what she wants is that everyone stops doing their jobs when she enters the workplace to give her attention, because otherwise, apparently, people hate her. She is also very pretty. Not that I'd want a relationship with her, because this trait is very off putting.

I've already heard her saying I'm not friendly and I don't know who should I react. I think it's ridiculous to start giving her attention to keep the peace because I have things to do that pay my bills and it would be very draining, I cannot fake interest in things that bore me. I don't understand why we can't just do our jobs and go home.

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[-] Nemo@midwest.social 7 points 10 months ago

She's just complaining. You're fine. If she's not frosty towards you in interactions, it's just venting. Some people need to do that to process their own emotions; and it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong or leaving something undone.

[-] HubertManne@kbin.social 4 points 10 months ago

yeah I agree here. sounds like its a her problem and no need for the OP to change their way of working.

[-] Nemo@midwest.social 2 points 10 months ago

There's no problem at all, most likely.

[-] MrVilliam@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

My wife had a coworker who was an absolute downer with this kind of shit. She had a little bit of authority over him, so her solution was to make a deal with him that at the beginning of shift, he had 60 seconds to get all of his complaining out of the way, and then they both promised to not complain all shift. Everybody on site immediately noticed that it was now more pleasant to work with him lol.

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